The ways of Love are many
complex yet simple
with each interpretation
defining another
upon which is built
a glowing matrix
a Tapestry of Treasure
of unimaginable delight
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Photography/ “The Ways Of Love”/ February 2017©AmyRose
http://www.herladypinkrose.wordpress.com
Photograph taken at Chestnut Ridge Park, NY
Hubby and I have come to a silent agreement about something. I’ve attempted the verbal approach asking hubby to do something my way to which he actually agrees with me. I said to myself, “Finally that man gets it!” but as soon as I think he is going along with what I asked, I see him doing something his way again. So, I’ve stopped asking. Yet whenever I see that something not my way, I change it back to my way.
Let me explain. We have a hall that I would classify as “dead space” meaning there are no windows so the only source of ventilation is the door leading to the garage and the heating/air conditioning vent in our half lav. When the temps are cold that side door is not often open. So the only way the air is exchanged in this small hall is through the vent in the half lav. Four kitty litter pans are in this small hall, so in my opinion, ventilation is a must back there.
Hubby likes this vent closed because as he states it gets too hot/cold in there (which it does) when the door is closed as he sits on the throne. So he closes the vent. I come along and in using the throne notice the vent is closed so I open it just a wee bit hoping this time around hubby won’t notice and darn it just leave it be!
He does notice that I opened it a wee bit. And without saying anything he again closes this vent. It doesn’t get opened a wee bit until I come along when I notice it is closed. Oh the ways of Love … It’s not easy living with someone as long as I have who is vastly different then I am. So I quietly insist on my way and hubby quietly insists on his way. So it is. One would think since I am the one who cleans this house he would say, “Honey, I know how hard you work to keep this house clean. We’ll do it your way and leave this vent open a wee bit.” This woman is not holding her breath for that to happen! LOL
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Sometimes, we’ve got to agree to disagree… and hope they’ll come around! Which, in your case, he did…in the end! What a lovely surprise! The little things, eh? That’s love for you. Hehe.
Beautiful words, my friend. As always. Stunning image! ❤
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Amanda, you didn’t read it right. Hubby didn’t come around. This is ongoing. He closes the vent. I open it. And neither one of us says anything anymore. hehehehehe ….. 🙂 ❤
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Oh… I thought he came around in the end?! Doh! Sorry… Just wishful thinking, hey? You’ll be opening and closing it all day! A funny image though, I must say! Hehehe. Sounds like someone I know! :-p
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Shhhhhhh …. that vent has been open almost a week. Don’t say anything but hubby is slipping. LOL 😂
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Beautiful post Amy 🙂
This is really to see, how different we are in many ways and live together with others in same time. Silent agreements are one thing and maybe to prefer than the very loud once.
Love ❤
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I prefer the quiet ones, Irene, to that of the loud ones. Fighting gets us nowhere but upset. May you have a great day today! ❤
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Thank you Amy, I prefer the quiet ones too. Enjoy your day with lots of smiles ❤
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Lovely photo………just a little dab of color in the middle of winter
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Thank you, Mom!! Hope you are feeling better!! ❤
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Can you get him a little fan? No man likes to work up a sweat sitting down.
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LOL Now that is a GREAT idea, Scott. I mean it. I don’t know why I didn’t think of that myself. Huh. Now I know what to do! Hehehehehehe 🙂 ❤
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This painted such a Happy scene of marital harmony.. So often we choose to agree to disagree.. 🙂 within our household. 🙂
Love the Image for today Amy.. And I checked you were no where in my spam box.. xxx LOVE and HUGS dear one, and Happy VENTing Days xxx 🙂 ❤
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Very “strange” you wrote VENTing and I just caught the correlation between today’s post and tomorrow’s post. The word “vent” is used in a different way in my coming post. Interesting. No, I find it fascinating that you wrote what you did. Huh. SO glad I was not in least one spam prison. Ha Ha. And as for marriage …. yiveh …. it can be challenging. YET we all have a choice in either getting upset or not, and trying to work out the best possible solution. Yep, know that one for sure! Happy Day, dear friend. ❤ ❤ ❤
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After 42 yrs of marriage Amy lol you learn when to VENT and Not to VENT.. lol.. hehe.. and will look out for tomorrows posting xx LOL.. Much love for today dear Amy. ❤ xxx
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Last 2 lines made my day, Amy. Another of your beautiful creations!
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Thank you, Alok. Bless you for telling me my words spoke to you!! ❤
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I so get this one. Yet this year I have discovered that when he knows What he knows amazing things it is a sweet song.
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Love what you said, Susan. It sounds so poetic!!! 🙂 ❤
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And so it is. It is like learning a symphony.
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Ooooh, that’s a hard one because it is a matter of comfort. men!!
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LOL@Marissa! I think I’m handling it pretty well. Discussion did not get too far. So I went into direct action. So far hubby hasn’t noticed that vent has been open for a good week. I’m winning. Tee hee ….. I LOVE it!!! Men! You’ve got that right! Someone here mentioned buying a small fan. Hmmmm …. great idea! But then what happens with the A/C is on and it gets cold in there? LOL Too funny!!! 🙂 ❤
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Oh, it is quite a conundrum. Luckily one that may be working itself out!!
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Sounds like another way of working out: Open up, close it again, open up, close it again,…
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LOL@Erika! 😂😜😂
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😂😂😂
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Mmmm, a Game Of Thrones thing Amy 😀
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I’m wining! I’m winning! 😂😜😂
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Yayyy … 😀 lol
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Hahaha…and love resides most among differences of opinion in a marriage 😀 Unlike poles attract, even science says so… 😀
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I’ve lived that for more years then I care to admit. LOL Hubby and I are as opposite as they come. Whew! ❤
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Like Yin and Yang! They are different but always together 🙂
The picture looks nice and painting like!
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Yes like Yin and Yang. Exactly! 🙂 ❤
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Haha…I can see the two of you Changi g the vent!! Love to you, Amy! ♡
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Laughing with you, Lorrie. So far he is slipping for I have been winning for now over one week. The heat must not have been on while the man was on the throne. LOL ❤
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Maybe you need to monitor it…and run to the thermostat when he runs to the throne!!!
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Have a beautiful weekend Amy…if you got snow…stay warm! ♡♡
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Hmmmmm…it sounds like “purrfect” Balance to me. You both get your way…sometimes things don’t have to be only one way. You have both ways here, which ends up living on the perfect Balance and Harmony line. A different perspective? 🙂
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It certainly is a different perspective, Mar. Being married this long I know when to keep my mouth quiet and just go on with what I want to do without raising a fuss. Tee hee …. Compromise. I’d rather it be that then conflict any day. 🙂 ❤
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That is likely why you have stayed married for so long! Well done. Blessings! 🙂
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I think sometimes in relationships it’s a lot healthier to agree to disagree! Keeps like less complicated lol 🙂
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I agree! Have a great weekend, Alifya! ❤
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Amy, if after 40-some years, your issues are vents being open or closed, I’d put this relationship in the win column.
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Ohhhh! I wish that was the only issue. I wish! 😬😆😂
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Marriage is such give and take! Thanks for posting it so eloquently! Love the picture too! My sister lives in NY, NY. She sent me a video today of the snow storm? Or just snow. Lots of it! Much different than our 71 degrees today in Vegas! I do love the snow too ⛄️.
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I heard about the snow, Ipuna, and so far we haven’t seen any. Crossing fingers we do not. Yet … IF we do again there is a bonus for me to get some pretty pics. Have a great weekend! ❤
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Right! Make sure you get that picture! Have a great weekend as well!
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I like how you used closing the vent to describe it! Clever!! ❤
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Not sure what you mean, Amy. 🙂
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Ha ha oh this sounds so familiar. I can’t imagine my hubby coming round either .. no way! Lol
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beautifully narrated!!! Love don’t know how big or small the surprises are love knows the feeling by which the surprise is presented!!!
So nice god bless you both!!
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