Life is a classroom. This is where we learn lessons that are presented to us within our lives. If we do not learn them the first time around, which is the case for most of us, they will be presented again sometime in our future.
Presently it seems I’m working on self-respect more then anything else. Yes there are other lessons yet this seems to be my Major. In recognizing this opportunity for what it is, I began to “see” my life differently. I examined my past actions and didn’t like what I saw. I am finally ready to change my actions to line up with respecting myself even more.
A situation kept repeating itself in my life and I allowed it. By allowing it I enabled the actions of the other person and in so doing trampled my own self-respect. I shrugged my actions off by saying, “This is who this person is and so it is.” One day the camel’s back broke and I finally said, “No longer will I allow this behavior towards me. It is not right. And I most certainly deserve better.” I then took measures to notify this person that how I am being treated will no longer be tolerated by me.
If I don’t respect myself, how will others respect me?
I am no longer willing to accept this behavior as being OK.
By allowing others to control it shows two things. One, we are disrespecting ourselves and two, the one who is controlling is actually insecure and afraid.
We all deserve respect regardless of who we are or what in happening in our lives. If we don’t keep the lines of communication open, a relationship will not survive.
I am no longer willing to have my own self-respect trampled in conceding to someone else’s control. I am standing tall. I respect ME.
My decision to follow through with my declaration regarding actions that are no longer tolerated in my life, was not easy. It was right out scary. This relationship is very important to me, yet I just will not compromise who I am any longer. My intent is within the space I created by backing away, both of us conclude that changes are to be made in order for this relationship to continue. I was taught to be a doormat as a child. That no longer holds true.
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Photography/ “Maturing Self-Respect” /March 2020©AmyRose
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