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When someone does something
that really really bugs you
and you find yourself getting upset
about this something,

 

and then as
your relentless thoughts
about this something
persist night and day
tormenting you
and plain driving you nuts(!),

 

this usually inadvertently indicates
there is something within yourself
the Universe is attempting to
get your attention about

 

that you have not acknowledged
in order for
growth and change to occur
for your Highest Good.

 

*What irks you in another is mirroring something similar in you.*
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Recently I became very upset by what someone close to me was doing. A pattern this person displays that I’ve seen for more years I’d like to admit, brought me to the breaking point. For days I was miserable. Two nights ago, I awoke and simply knew right there and then, the very actions that this person was exemplifying mirrored mine regarding an aspect of my life. When I saw this truth, immediately I understood why my thoughts were borderline obsessive.

This “habit” I kept seeing in the “other” person that drove me bonkers, was all about me. For you see, I did the exact same thing! Admit that however? Heck no! Not me! “Deny all you want, Ame, but yeah you”, says the Universe.

I have every intention to begin changing this aspect in me. The actions that were driving me crazy turned out to be a Blessing in disguise. Since my “revelation”, the relentless thoughts ceased immediately. Why? I consciously chose to turn to the Universe showing me how to change that which I desire to change in me. Mission accomplished. Message received.

We can only change ourselves. Yes?

Undoing the patterns that I inherited from my childhood, is one of the most challenging things I am actively doing in my life. There are times I truly want to step off this path and throw the towel in. It is just that difficult. But, with hindsight as my Guide, I know that once I begin changing these negative behaviors into something positive, I will feel like I’ve conquered the impossible. For you see, I will be transmuting hell to Heaven.

*Change began yesterday. Now to reinforce this new pattern.*

Photography/ “Mirrors” /Feb. 2020©AmyRose Photography
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70 thoughts on “Mirrors”

  2. Beautiful post Amy and your pictures are stunning snow photos 😀
    I do also find it as a good exercise to find out why, when someone else are doing something, as do really annoy me. Much too often it is pure projection and we get forced to see, to be able to change this for ourselves. Then we need to be grateful for the other souls behavior, as they helped us seeing, what we should see and learn by. The last point is not always easy to do, but good to do.
    Much love to you ❤

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    1. Thank you, Irene! From your words you have experienced what I wrote about and since you have, you also know how it is not easy to first see something in you that you would rather not see, and then changing that something. Yes those other souls who helped us see are our Blessings. (smile) May you have a really great day today! Much love to you! xo

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  4. Beautiful snow photos. It’s suppose to get over 60 this afternoon before the temps drop again. It’s annoying when things that annoy us we do as well. At least you could look inside yourself a see it.

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    1. It’s in the 40’s right now and sunny. All that white beautiful snow will be gone. We actually had rain yesterday. And sometimes, Tim, it is not easy to look inside. I know it is not for me. Hope you have a great day today!

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  6. A very good reflective post, Amy (I couldn’t resist, but it’s true). The photos are beautiful. They remind me of the kind of winter we’re supposed to be having. Seeing ourselves in others is often difficult.

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    1. SMILING at your play on words, Dan. Enjoy the remainder of the pictures that I plan on showing because it is beginning to look as though Spring is here. Trees are budding, flowers are coming up and the light looks like it is April instead of February. And yes, seeing us in others as you said, is difficult.

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  7. This is so important for me today. I swear we have some kind of synchronicity, Amy. But I still need to identify the pattern. I so often want to throw in the towel, too. Take up drinking or overworking to drown it out. But just when I think I can’t take anymore, clarity dawns. Beautiful wintry photos. 🙂

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    1. When you ID that pattern, Julie, you will feel so relieved. The thoughts for me that wouldn’t quit, the anger, were utter torment! Look closely at what is bothering you. You may have a “block” for that too I’ve experienced thanks to the horrors I’ve lived through. Be kind to you. Keep busy so that you don’t sink into despair. Know that this too is meant for you to grow beyond the dysfunction that was taught to us. You can do this. I know you can. Go for long walks …. and try NOT to think about anything but the NOW moment. I even had nightmares before very quietly I just knew why I was so upset as finally I saw in me what I need to change. BIG (((HUGS)))!!! Bless you with all I am! I know how difficult transformation is. Hang in there! I send you my LOVE! xoxoxoxoxo

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    1. Yes I agree with this as well, Julie. Yet this post was about those times people who upset us serve as a mirror for us to see that something in us needs to change in order for growth to come about. Those times others get me upset I know instantly what core value they do not understand. I also do not allow them to violate my space nor my core value. When that upset easily leaves, I absolutely know this is not about me but only my “reaction” to something I strongly do not like. Thank you for your comment.

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  11. Such insights and what leads to them are the hardest to experience because they can really bring us to the edge. But right that opens the view because we begin to question everything and also ourselves. Yes, change begins with ourselves. It is amazing to observe that once we change something about us how something outside of us changes or how the behaviors of others change. Indeed, we are mirrors.
    I can so relate to what you said about how it was bothering you and how liberating is the insight that follows.
    Wonderful post, Amy, and the photos are beautiful. I miss a winter landscape like this. At least a thin layer of snow covering everything would be appreciated. 💖

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    1. Enjoy the remaining pictures I do have of snow because it is looking like Spring is coming in. There are buds on trees and my Daffodils and Crocuses are coming up! No way! Never have I seen this!
      SO happy you related to this post, Erika. I really read your words a couple of times letting them just sink in. Bless you for leaving such valuable feedback especially since I know it is life experience that you have lived through. Much love to you! xo

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      1. It is crazy, my willow started budding two months early… not to talk from my roses and other flowers.
        Thank you for your lovely words regarding my comments. Yes, definitely lived through (for sure like many others have experienced too). Although we might wish not to get there once we are in the midst of them but then I am thankful because it helps to understand others so much better. Thank you for sharing your life so openly since it really helps those who may think they are the only ones experiencing this. Big hugs, dear friend 💖

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  12. Impressive clarity of vision, Amy. Not everyone is as tuned in – you are showing the way! ❤
    Lovely winter scenes you've captured. I love the first one esp. – makes me want to walk right into that picture. 🙂

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    1. Eliza, I am really touched by what you said. I am just passing on what I am learning so that maybe someone “gets it”. It’s taken me a long time to know what I do and I still stumble and fall. It’s called being human, I suppose. (smile)
      I won’t forget this snowy day for a long time. I literally walked into Winter Wonderland, the ONLY one I saw this Winter. xo

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  13. Your doing beautifully dear lady. 90% of it is in just recognising it, which you’ve done. Then your heart wants you to be free. Your love for you asks you to just understand the ‘why’ of your reactions. Once you finally see where it comes from and the reason your actions are in place, it loses its power forever.
    And be gentle on yourself, these are a lifetime of doing something, you can’t just click your fingers and they are gone. It takes time, but in that time after you recognise why, you will see that those ‘reactions’ will get weaker and weaker until one day you suddenly realise you no longer react. Then an inner smile will grace your heart to say ‘I love you’…to yourself…and the realisation that you are now totally, utterly free 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 🦘 🐬 🐳 🌺

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    1. I’ve been having nightmares, Mark, regrading feelings that are surfacing and what I am seeing in me. The healing process is at times so so difficult yet when all is said and done, it is SO worth it. There is no forcing this process for when you are ready to see, that is when you see. Some are never ready to see so their entire lifetime is spent repeating the “old”.
      I was just today telling someone that it seems of late that all my “safe” places have been torn from me. And you know despite the nightmares and waking up in absolute fear, I know that I am to find that “safe” place in me. That is absolute love for me. As the ground beneath me shifts and I don’t seem to be able to find anything to hold onto, this situation will show me how to turn myself into my safe zone. Whew!!
      These mountains I climb ….. make my legs shake. LOL
      Much love to you!! Just loving your little emoticons. Thank you! xoxoxoxo

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      1. It is a big journey dear lady, but through it is a Garden of Eden. You will so appreciate it so much more ‘because’ of what you have faced. When you see the reason why and understand it…it will set you free. It is a big journey dear lady, but through it is a Garden of Eden. You will so appreciate it so much more ‘because’ of what you have faced. When you see the reason why and understand it…it will set you free 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽

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      2. Working my way to freedom, dear friend. I once was told years ago by my Inner Guidance NOT to rely on man for my spiritual well being. It seems now I am being taken further into that journey. All that used to give me a sense of wellbeing no longer is. Terrifying to no longer feel that connection or feel that safe place? You bet! Yet I am learning I am the power source! Me! I am Divinity walking the human experience. Hmmmmmm ……

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      4. Oh my goodness!!! Mark, I honestly look forward to your post! How exciting! I’m thrilled that I was able to spark something in you. Cool beans, says the woman relying on herself for her power and safe zone. (smile) xoxoxoxoxo

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      5. Your journey will find that freedom dear lady. As hard as it is, it will take your heart to such a beautiful, loving place within that all else is but a dream.
        Take a breath, have faith in you, and that inner radar of love will pinpoint the rough bits around the edges my friend so you can clean out your inner attic with love.
        The post is posted with many thanks for sharing your heart so that I may share mine. I’ve mentioned some of it before but in a slightly new way. Spirit needed to chat 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 🦘 🐬 🐳 🌺

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    1. You are welcome, Wendi. Enjoy these images while they last cuz temps are warm here as well and the snow is not on the ground. I just came from the very park these pictures were taken in. Yes the snow is still the ground there, surprisingly so, but all the beautiful white snow is no longer on the trees. I’m glad I got pictures last week. Much love to you!! xoxoxoxo

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    1. Marie, this is what is called the Human Experience. (smile) When we learn to release the resistance and the fear our suffering truly does end. Sounds like you know, dear friend. May your day have been a great one today!! xo

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      1. Yes, I feel I know Amy. I’ve had an experience, which I can’t properly put into words but suffice to say, I felt pushed to breaking point, unable to get answers or ‘fix’ our son’s distress as a result of bullying. I appealed to God, to the Universe, while distressed and walking hard to work off the stress. I offered my distress up to the heavens, asking to understand what lesson I was meant to learn. Later I felt a wonderful sense of peace, an ability to accept that things were not how I wanted them to be, but as they were. Weirdly, once I accepted & let go resistance to the situation, John’s distress started to ease and he started to reengage. I wrote a little of it in my post “Acceptance, Love & Time.” My one day today was good and I am grateful for it and for you being a lovely part of it. Le grà, Marie xx

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      2. Wow! Oh, Marie, this is absolutely priceless!! I know that feeling ….. and yes it is hard to put into words. I’m so happy for you and your family that the Universe is assisting you. It’s like magic, isn’t it?
        Share a little story just from today …. Rushing around like nuts this morning in order to get out of here on time for a walk with a group of women. The more I rushed the more uptight and anxious I became. Finally I just stopped and said …. “I’m not doing this. I guess this was not to be.” From that moment on, I didn’t rush yet a new feeling arose …. I WAS going and I would be on time. And there you have it. I did go. And I was on time. It happened almost effortlessly and like magic. xo

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    1. I agree with you, YC, that many cannot see this revelation. I admit it took me many years to “get it” and sometimes in the heat of emotions, I slip and fall again. Again another agreement with you about being courageous to open the third eye. Once opened, your life is not ever the same!! Thank you very much for this valuable comment. I so do appreciate it!! xo

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  18. Hi Amy! Very cool post! How true – sometimes these people are in our lives to show us what needs attention in ourselves. Good on you for sticking with it and healing your belief. Not always an easy thing to do. Lovely photos – I love the majesty of the trees – the snow really enhances them! Beautiful! Much love to you my friend – enjoy the healing moment!! Donna

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    1. Thank you for commenting, Donna, and telling me you can relate to this post. No it isn’t easy. As I am discovering, there are times that my subconscious fights and my dreams become nightmares on account I am blocked. Tough stuff to go through! That only makes me wonder how much more “stuff” I have that is blocked in me. I know I’m doing the best I know how to.
      Enjoy the snow pictures while I show them. They may be the very last ones. Flowers coming up, trees budding and the temps above freezing.
      Much love to you and BIG (((HUGS)))!! xo

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  19. !!!!!! Amy this post is a reflection of my own thoughts and worries. I have spent much of my recent past reflecting on this very thing. I see things in others….and whoa….there it is in me. And the relearning patterns from childhood….. I know I’m just repeating what you just wrote….. I’m just grateful to see this in writing. It helps me to see it, it helps me to understand me better. Thank you.

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    1. It helps me as well, Colleen, knowing I am not alone in my struggles and healing process. This is hard stuff!! Keep in mind that you deserve to be treated gently for all the hard work you have been doing on you. I am proud of you, dear friend. So much!! (((HUGS)))!! xo

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  20. Amy such a beautiful post, your words are also mirrors to my own soul path.. As you know..
    So many emotions we take on board from our childhood years we unconsciously carry with us into our adult lives which affect our behaviours and our attitudes even towards others…

    Your perception of understanding what you were witnessing in the habits of others reflected back to something within yourself shows me just how awake you are in that you are totally understanding the Mirror Effect.. All of us after all are a fractal of the other.. Each emotion, each word, each experience, all affecting each other…

    Learning that we can only truly free ourselves by letting all of that emotional baggage go is when we begin to do that internal work… Looking within and understanding Self..

    From my own experience, we do that work and think its often done.. Then out of the blue something happens that triggers something yet still to be cleared… Its happened several times to me, but each time I delved deeper and took a Far deeper look into my own reflection, I saw that only I can change me… MY perception of a situation of MY Belief of something which was done to me in the past..
    When I really looked again into that mirror.. I was able to see both sides of the mirror.. My own view point and that of the person who had caused me to feel unworthy in my childhood that affected how I interacted with others as an adult..
    When I turned that reflection around and saw things from another perspective, I was able to forgive, and also forgive myself for feeling as I had all of those years to that person..

    We are so multi layered Amy… And this journey truly is a journey where we are here to find out WHO we are as we learn to love and let go at the same time..

    Beautiful post Amy.. So went well with each image my friend..
    Your posts inspire and just get better and better…
    Love and hugs my friend ❤

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    1. I know you understand what I wrote here, Sue. I know. This journey is so difficult at times. Yet, due to the breakthrough associated with this post, something I did not expect happened.
      Every time I go to my GP, I get so nervous. She is relatively new in my life so I wasn’t sure if she even believed me regarding my chronic pain situation. That’s a carryover from my childhood … I was never believed when I said something. So, anyways, I had an appointment yesterday. I agreed to allow a Nurse Practitioner in training to examine me. That meant more time sitting, which I have a hard time with. By the time that appointment was over, I was in terrible pain from sitting so long. When I went to get up my legs didn’t work right and I stumbled and almost lost my balance. I was SO embarrassed. I even said so. My doctor and Nurse Practitioner both in unison showed me COMPASSION, a first for me from someone in medicine. I was stunned. I’ve had to fight for so long within the realm of medicine, standing up for what I believe in. Yesterday due to me working through an aspect of my life, I must have let go something that blocked me from receiving genuine concern from medicine. Wow! Just writing this has a huge lump in my throat … I’ve been through more hells within medicine then I care to even think about.
      May this story encourage you. I “thought” my breakthrough was regarding another matter, but it overlapped into the realm of being shown Compassion by the very institute that fought me for years on end. OH for the JOY!!!
      Much love to you and BIG HUGS!! xoxo

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      1. That is wonderful to read Amy, compassion heals so many layers. And at last perhaps this is yet one more layer now dissolving away.
        May the joy continue as you let go and love yourself more and more.
        Sending you healing thoughts Amy. From my heart to your heart.💚🧡💚

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  21. Ah! Ah! Ahhhhhh!
    I don’t know why I should be surprised Amy. I should just expect that if you are writing about something then I am experiencing it…and vice versa!
    Yes…the whole mirroring thing…going through it now. Yesterday was a bad day…and I was truly annoyed by almost every person I met. In fact I wrote a snarky email to someone…and then I heard the voice of reason…”Don’t send it!” So I erased it…Thank God. Because I realized later in the day that it wasn’t the other people…it was me. And the minute I had that aha moment, everything shifted.

    Ok…and here’s the kicker…I just started with a new doctor (a woman) and she is wonderful…and caring…and is actually helping me!!!!! I 100% know…and can read between the lines of your experiences through the years with those in medicine. I was told so many times that my pain was all in my head that I completely stopped going to doctors. And when they finally diagnosed me with Lyme Disease (the great imitator…causes symptoms of other diseases…and then of course there is no diagnosis for those diseases) it explained everything. And to this day all I can think is “Shame on those medical people” for not being better. The system failed me for 40 years of suffering and being told I was crazy! Ugh! I, to this day, have fear going to any doctor because I don’t believe they will help me. I will change that story because of this new woman…and you will change yours too!
    Blows my mind…of course we are going through the same things! 😁😁
    Much love my dear friend 💜

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  24. The cold hard truth (in accompaniment to the photos!)
    Sometimes it is that, that we need to self-correct. Sometimes it’s to teach us greater compassion. And sometimes, it’s not about us at all. Very good to take inventory and act accordingly ❤

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