I’m discovering sexy in sixty (+).
Get the title now?
I would have within a moment’s notice told anyone the “feeling sexy” days are long behind me. Recently, though, I’ve discovered quite by accident I can still pull sexy off. Imagine that. It’s easy to feel sexy when you are younger. Remember that, younguns.
When I turned 50 I was suddenly treated as if I not only lost my brains but I was no longer visible as a sexy woman. The shock hit me like a tsunami. The deplorable stigma in this country that declares “older” people no longer hold any value, belongs in the rubbish and burned. That same stigma however, many times is not applied if you are wealthy or if you are a man. [my observations]
For years after turning 50, I slunk into myself, unable to act as I once had with a swagger to my step, a glow on my face, a twinkle in my eye, and with assurance that I am woman, hear me roar. Forget even feeling sexy as the age process itself unfolded and the world it seemed looked upon me as if I were decrepit and useless. When so many were engaged in tearing me down, ridiculing me, blowing me off not taking me seriously, or out right rude to me, that takes a toll. My self-confidence in me evaporated. Years went by.
Then one day not long ago, I arrived on a brand new page, one that emphatically stated, I’m not taking this degradation any longer! Screw this! I’m fighting back!
I was flat out determined I would reclaim my “true self” regardless of how this world attempts to project its sickness onto me. I researched, studied, took recommendations and did everything within my power to bring health and wholeness to myself. Just in the past couple of weeks, the efforts I applied for many years, are paying off and hugely!
One day not long ago, I was walking into the gym. I noticed a UPS driver staring at me as he sat in his truck. I boldly caught his eye, smiled, and waved. Never missing a step or slowing down, I continued walking into the gym with an energetic step as if to say I’m here for one reason only and that is to work out. Enjoy the view while you have it … [to the UPS man]
A phenomenon occurred about 15 minutes later. Three men in the gym interacted with me. Mind you, this normally does not happen! I mean business when I’m at that gym, not there to socialize. I get in and get out quickly. That day was the exception.
The first man, an older gentlemen who spoke with me, told me repeatedly I made his day because I took the time to listen to his life story. All throughout my workout whenever our paths crossed after we spoke, we high-fived one another and grinned. A younger man stopped what he was doing as he watched me do tricep push-downs with a split, (burners!) and when I finished, an “Ow!” flew from my mouth. He laughed and said, “Great set! Keep it up!” *Blush* I realized he was watching only when he said something.
Then! In doing cable cross overs, another younger man approached me and he blurted before I could blink, “I cannot believe how hot you are! You’ve got hands down, everything over these young girls because you’re older then they are! And, with your glasses and the bun in your hair, you’ve got the sexy librarian thing going on.” (Inwardly my mouth is gaping wide-open! Yes, he really said these words!)
Heat rushing to my face, I couldn’t help but belly laugh. I could not believe my ears. No one has ever spoken to me like this. And to top it off, I wasn’t embarrassed! Calmly confident, I stood there without squirming as I sincerely thanked him for stoking my ego, grinning from ear to ear. When words had been exchanged after some time, I told him I had to start another set. He walked away to do his next set of bicep curls. Nothing more was said.
I’m proving, it is never too late to get back into shape or ensuring that every aspect of my life equals health. I’m also proving it is possible to reclaim myself after that same self was stripped to nothing. If I can do this, so can you! When was the last time you turned someone’s head? When have you walked with confidence with a spring to your step, holding your head high and as you do, beam outwardly how much you Love yourself? It’s all in the “inner glow”, attitude, facial expression, and how you present yourself that matters, not the degree of “beauty” according to this world’s standards.
But! It takes a confident and strong woman to handle situations successfully as I just described. Nothing I said or did encouraged flirting or leading someone on. I am married and know how to act accordingly. Within the context of those conversations, after the ego-stoking, much kindness and encouragement were exchanged which in turn, brought a lightness to all Hearts involved.
I am woman, hear me roar!
*Picture was taken by Hubby in B&W*
Photography/ “Replace “E” With “I” And Delete “T”/2019©AmyRose