Secrets. Half truths. Lies by omission … ways so many of us were taught how to interact with others. Honesty is surely not upheld much in today’s society, is it? It’s no wonder so many do not know how to be honest with themselves much less with anyone else.
If we don’t learn to trust with our very souls, we set ourselves up for a very lonely existence, one that will have us running from here to there and back again with insatiable yearning in our souls to anchor in a safe port. We need connection and a safe place where we can be cocooned in a Heart that is willing to give us the freedom to be ourselves.
Growing up not knowing how to have a healthy, intimate relationship has hindered my relationships throughout my entire life. I am teaching me to be honest with myself and with others, maintaining diplomacy where it is required when others are not at the same place I am in. Time and time, however, I seem to bring fear to the forefront in others regardless of what I say or do. Why fear? People tend to hide behind doors, peeking ever so carefully through well constructed cracks to protect themselves from potential pain. Honesty brings Vulnerable along and Vulnerable is scary! By hiding, their real Selves are not seen.
So, it’s Game Time!
It is my responsibility to be honest. Do I mess up? Yes I do yet when I do fall, I get right back up on the Honesty Horse to keep on riding! Gosh darn it! I’m gonna get this honesty thing right to the best of my ability!
Creating a smoke screen to hide behind preventing honesty to present itself, hurts others. Withdrawal. Silence. Avoidance. Anything but honesty. Many hurt feelings could be avoided if we all choose to be honest with one another. Energy can be felt especially when dishonesty comes along to poke and prod.
Recently I met two women while at my favorite park. They stopped when they saw me photographing something, curious if I had spotted a bird or another form of wildlife.
When finished I laughed and told them I was only photographing a closeup of cattails. As I walked towards them I started to share where I saw a bird if that was what they were interested in.
Both had cameras. The closer I came the more I knew they were put off by me for I felt their aversion. It felt like a slap in the face. Here I am only being myself but I inadvertently created a less then a harmonious feeling in another. The moment I realized this I did not attempt to get any closer not wishing to cause even more alarm. My goodness! Neither woman could even give me eye contact. Wrapping my narration up quickly about the bird I had seen, I wished them good luck. I knew somehow I had pushed an alarm button in them. All because of my “energy”.
They evidently could not be honest with themselves by welcoming me for who I am, thus the uncomfortable situation that developed. Whew! In walking away, I just looked back at those two women and felt sadness for them. This behavior is so typical in this world. If someone is different [gasp!], the predictable [for the most part] response from others is guards up, with honesty taking a back seat. In honesty’s place stands judgement. Don’t you think that can be felt? Darn right it can! Ouch!
As a dear friend said to me, I am choosing my own happiness. It is on them, not me, those who refuse to be honest not only with me but with themselves as well. That is a prison of their own making and no thank you, I would not wish that existence on anyone. Care to join me for the ride of your life on your own Honesty Horse? Let’s begin today! As with all aspects of life, the first step in living an Honest Life begins with you.
This is a contribution to ForgivingFridays of ForgivingConnects that promotes healing through forgiving of our judgments and limitations.
*Photographs for the most part were heavily accented with effects.*
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Photography/ “Honesty Horse”/ September 2018©AmyRose
http://www.herladypinkrose.wordpress.com
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Honestly, yes, I will join you! I know exactly what you mean Amy. Honesty has it’s own frequency vibration and others can feel it – being in the presence of honesty can bring either fear or a breath of fresh air to them – depending on their vibration. But how many people are actually honest – like you said there are so many ways to lie, and it’s on TV and the news all the time – making it seem almost acceptable. There is so much brain washing going on. Love the cattails by the way!! I am glad you are holding up the flag of honesty – I’m there with you!! Much love, Donna
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Dearest Donna, as I was going about my morning routine I was really questioning this post if I had clearly written my objective. To give honesty as the example of this interaction with these two women, is a deep one to understand and I don’t think some would get the link between the two. THANK YOU for understanding and for confirming that I did write clearly. I have also been thinking as to WHY these two women rejected me and acted the way they did. I “think” they had a preconceived idea that they were there to capture wildlife and nothing more. Due to this mindset they were blind to the Beauty all around them. Coupled with that, my obvious JOY and being in the moment (like a kid) rubbed them the wrong way … they obviously were not getting a lot of captures. At this time of year the pickings are slim. Again another THANK YOU for joining me on your own Honesty Horse. I am well aware of the brainwashing that is going on hence, I avoid mainstream TV. I am thrilled you read this post, understood it, and enjoyed my photography. Hubby keeps saying as I show him what I am doing … that’s a keeper. In other words, put up on our walls. Just yesterday he said we are running out of wall space. LOL Have a great weekend, dear friend. Your comment made my day!! 🤗🤗🤗
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Gorgeous photos AR….Amazing really! As for truth, what truth? America is run on lies, period the end. We saw that yesterday at the hearing. So think about this and think even more about the implications this scenario bring to life: From the very beginning, we humans are taught to believe in lies not truth! Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, the tooth fairy….Really? We raise our children on lies, “harmful” little white lies, come on VK, be real….I am being real. Why the hell are we not raised on TRUTH! If the world doesn’t start to adjust its thinking pretty soon I don’t know how long I can bear to remain here….Sorry your encounter was not a good one. Sad state of the world. Sending hugs and love your way. Stay strong and true to yourself! Always! VK ❤
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VK, how my Heart weeps for those women. Just the fact they had the courage to come forward put tears in my eyes, because I know how cruel and ruthless the outcome would be. I will NOT allow the vicious spirit of LIES to destroy me! Those women need our prayers and our Love, admiring them from afar for their courage. Why do you think I insist on creating my own life away from this world? Why do you think I am out in Nature as much as I can be? Why do you think I am so strong on changing myself, someone who was taught lying and dishonesty was the norm? YOU hang in there and please do something nice for yourself to take your mind off the atrocities of this world. BIG (((HUGS))) to you, dear friend!!! 💞💞💞
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Beautifully captured, Amy! I love the warm colors, lights… am in awe. 🙂
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Thank you, Amy. 💕🌹💕
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Good piece. I too try my best. Passing judgement is always just at the surface and I have to remind myself not to.
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Thank you, Kelly. The first step for self-change is to first catch ourselves when we do or think something we want to change. Good for you for reminding yourself. ☺️
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Yes, it costs nothing to be kind and open minded
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You speak on the growing disconnect and hit the nail on the head with fear!!! I on the other hand have always been open and forward, so welcoming that I have gotten hurt often and left wondering… why don’t they like me? Many are afraid of my free open spirit and do not know how to react(so I’ve been told) I see the world getting so much worse with the fear of coming out of ones cocoon… So very sad but very true and I am not sure this will change! All I can say is if you are loving and kind be that and the world will either accept you or they won’t but often you can sit back and remember those that do ❤
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Tonya, sorry to hear you as well understand the invisible slap. My Inner Direction has had me avoid the world at large these past few years due to my energy setting off people who do not know what truth is. When I come across these kinds of people in the places I don’t expect it, it’s quite shocking. There are a LOT of good people in this world and I have every faith that someday my Inner Guidance will take the hold off so that I can jump back into the world with both feet. I’ve also learned how to shield myself. But …. when I’m out in Nature and in my Zone, my shields are completely down. BIG (((HUGS))) from one who understands. Stand tall and don’t change because this world is the way it is. 💖💖💖
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It is definitly all about the lessons we learn and the walk we walk. You are getting there one step at a time, at your own pace. As long as your workimg for the greatest good(Which I know you are) then all will be well💞🙏🏻
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Thank you. 💕😚💕
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Judging by those photos, you’ve “arrived” as a photographer, Amy. That’s my honest opinion. Perhaps those women were merely intimidated by the obvious love you have for photography and somehow sensed your talent is beyond that of a mere hobbyist. It’s their loss if they didn’t choose to follow you around and start photographing whatever you were – I would have (and I will, if I ever get my good camera back, darn Nikon).
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CM, you floored me by your comment! I am covered in Goosebumps! I am so so so moved by your words that I cannot even describe right now what I am feeling. Thank you from the bottom of my Heart! For you to say I have arrived as a photographer is the highest form of Praise anyone could give to me! And I think you are right on about why these women reacted to me the way they did. They really were intimidated by me and my obvious happiness. Unfortunately it was their loss. I really do hope somehow you can get that camera of yours fixed so that you and I can go out together to enjoy the beauty that Mother gives to us. Happy Friday and have a wonderful weekend, dear friend! 💕😚💕
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Enjoyed your photos so much, Amy — soft, gentle light and alluring benches and nature sites for one to be honest with themselves. We just keep learning…fortunately we have nature to help us.
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Thank you for making the time to tell me you enjoyed this post, Jet. That means a lot to me. Thank goodness we who understand, have Mother to assist us in our learning curves. 🤗
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Say it as it is my dear and be yourself. That is me, that is who you are. Those two women and others like them can go to blazes. 🙂 Hugs. 🙂
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Celestine, bless you for you being you! This world needs people who are open to ALL others. I in turn give you BIG HUGS because I just know you yourself have been hurt by the actions of others. Stay strong. Love will overcome the madness seen in this world today. 💝💝💝
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I love the pictures, Amy. It looks like you caught the perfect light. I often will make a comment to strangers I see in the park, especially if there’s a curious look coming my way. If it goes nowhere, I am quick to move on. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
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Thank you, Dan. I did capture some amazing light and plan on doing more of it. I’m also working with some filters on my lens. That’s my secret, though. (wink) I like to have open conversations and am more then willing to share but when I feel the block held in place by someone who is not open, I can’t get away fast enough. Hope you are having a great weekend!! 🤗
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First, I absolutely love the pictures and the effects as always!
You described an exact experience of mine, what you had with those women. It is like sometimes they don’t keep the ability of simple social manners of greeting me or acknowledging my presence simply because they can’t be true to themselves and somehow I threaten their comfort by simply Being and being present with them. I used to be hurt until I learned to understand this. Your description of how so many are conditioned with dishonesty and how fear drives their behavior is so perfectly spot on and beautifully done!
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Dearest friend, there will always be experiences with other people as I have described and as you yourself personally have experienced as well. Higher frequencies, which both of us carry, tend to offend those whose frequencies are much lower. We do not by any means do this on purpose, but it is what it is. There are times when my shield is down that I am left feeling shocked for I am unprepared for the response that is based in the lower emotions. All we can do is to keep on Shining and to keep on flowing within the higher frequencies, not allowing others to pull us down to the lower frequencies. Much much Love to you this day! 💕😚🌹💕
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🙂 Your words did add power to my intention of staying at my higher frequency, and not judge myself or others in such experiences.
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I do not understand why the two ladies should be that way. I have run into photographers during my photograph walking and they were very friendly and eager to meet and talk. We have the same passion and joy. I hope the event you encountered are rare. That is too bad or unfortunate. As you mentioned perhaps our human instinct is the dominance. I always say if one day monkeys become more intelligent like us, we would attempt to get rid of them…
Drop aways from the negativity, your pictures are just honestly beautiful!
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For the most part photographers are very open and willing to share and to stop and chat a while. I honestly don’t know why these women acted the way they did, but my guess is they were extremely disappointed about not being able to photograph much wildlife. Admittedly, at this time of year Wildlife is sparse. Just so sad on their part that they were missing the absolutely stunning beauty that was all around them that they could have captured if they had pushed aside their Obsession regarding wildlife. As for negativity, I do my best to avoid it but that is not possible at all times on this planet. I do thank you for the compliment on my photographs. I am really depending on my camera more and more to keep me anchored in my calm state. My life has been very challenging of late…
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Amy please have a nice Sunday.
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Thank you!! And you as well! 😁
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Deeply insightful my friend! I’m glad you are you.
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Thank you, Nico. I in turn am most glad that you are who you are! 💕🌹💕
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Cool! 😎
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I agree, there is too much fear and not enough trust and the gap seems to grow ever wider. We can only do what we can do, right? Live our truth.
Your photos show such beautiful light, Amy, well captured. I gasped when I saw #5, love 7, 9 and 10, too. Really great images! ❤
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When I read comments such as yours, Eliza, a huge grin breaks out across my face. To know that my photography has moved someone to the depths as you have exhibited, truly makes my day! I do my best to avoid negativity and the insanity that is so evident in this world, yet because of the planet that we all live upon, that is not always possible. I just let go and move forward allowing space between negativity and my own life everywhere I possibly can. Hope you are having a wonderful Sunday! And I do thank you for leaving such a wonderful common for me to read. A challenging life is the reason for the delayed response from me. Much Love to you! 💕😚🌹💕
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Words to the wise with this post, Amy. You capture honesty within your photos as well, presenting what nature gives… Honesty makes the world a simple, happier place 🙂
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Thank you, Randall. Honesty is not practiced much in the majority of this world. But I have taken it upon myself to not only teach myself to live an honest life, but to practice what I am learning. My photography has deeply touched something within me and to be truthful with you, I am stunned at what is being produced. Mother is truly with me and that in turn makes me very very humble indeed. 💕🌹💕
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I LOVE the last photo! I have had a hard time letting people get close to me throughout my whole life. I have been afraid of getting hurt and thinking that letting people really get to know me may mean they won’t like me. I have been working on letting people in because being afraid to can make for a lonely life.
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Leann, before I say anything I really want to thank you for trusting me enough to be honest with me. This tells me you are more than ready to begin the process of allowing people to get closer to you. Relationships overall are messy. There is no guarantee we will not be hurt no matter who we are or who we associate with. It is always safer to withdrawal and not allow ourselves the chance to build relationships. I understand. Oh do I get it! I was extremely hurt as a child and to this day I still struggle with the concept of relationships. Yet I have become extremely determined to be honest with myself and with others. That is a huge step for me and it is a work in progress. Those who cannot or refuse to be honest with themselves and who are chronic liars or players, I have every choice to avoid when I can. I also have a choice as you do, as to who to get close to and to open up to. Yes we who have mega hurt in our backgrounds tend to live overall, lonely lives. Be gentle with yourself and know that I with much experience down the river with life itself, can tell that you are willing to drop the guards and little by little begin to trust. I am very proud of you for doing so because I understand how scary it can be. I give you big hugs and lots of encouragement to learn how to trust others. Always let your Heart guide you as to who to trust. 💕😚💕
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Thanks for your well thought out and kind, encouraging comment. I really appreciate it. It is hard to let people get close but I have been working on it and have been more comfortable with myself the last few years more than I ever have. I’m a work in progress! 🙂
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(((HUGS)))!!
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A lot of wisdom here and the photos are just beautiful.
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Bless you and thank you, Michele, for stopping by to view this post. I’m really happy you enjoyed these images, to which I focused upon composition in each and every one. Along with age [hopefully] one gains wisdom. (smile) 💞
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the truth is
reflected
honestly
by these
images & words 🙂
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Bless you, David!! 💝
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Nice shooting
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Thank you. I’m actually in awe of myself. ☺️
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” People tend to hide behind doors, peeking ever so carefully through well constructed cracks to protect themselves from potential pain. ”
I agree with your great words here Amy.. And ” Why Fear?”… People are not used to people who speak the truth, it scares them.. Because we have been indoctrinated into this surreal world of lies and make-believe..
As for those two ladies, well, I meet many like that upon our walks.. I feel sorry for their closed minds and energy Amy..
Loved your post Amy and your photos are just getting better and better my friend..
Keep being TRUE to yourself..
Love and Hugs, Sue ❤
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Dearest Sue, as is obvious I have not been here at WP much these days. I read your comment yesterday and was much moved by it. RE: my photography …. I’m in awe of what I am doing to be truthful with you. Mother is really, and I mean really, assisting me!
Yes this world is one of illusions and to see past them in order to grasp Truth, is slippery and a puzzle in of itself. Have you ever seen those wooden dolls that open to reveal a smaller doll, and then on and on until you get to the last smallest doll? That’s what it seems this Journey seeking Truth is, because you “think” you understand and then lo and behold, again you don’t and another form of Truth bubbles up.
Learning to be TRUE to me is my ultimate goal in life, Sue. I was not taught this concept by any adult in my life, so Spirit who has seen my attempts to seek Truth, has given my Teachers to assist me. It is an honor for this to be happening. YOU stay TRUE to you, as well!!! Bless you with all I AM for your part in the Awakening! (((HUGS))) Amy
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I know Amy…We who had a childhood where we only sort love find it most I think when we are out in nature, being nurtured by Mother Nature herself..
She too has taught me most.. And the rest I have, like you, turned over the rocks of life seeking to find the truth which so many distort and enjoy camouflaging.. Hiding behind lies and distortions of truth.. ( My mother was a master of twisting the truth, and as a child if ever I dared to speak the truth I would get the lashing of her tongue) and a clip around the ear. 🙂 So I would run out into the hills and spend time alone..
And what ever you want to call it that guides us, would gently guide me and so began my journey with Spirit..
What is happening in the world right now Amy is not your usual normal for sure..
The plants too in my garden ( after reading your comment on my blog, I will leave a fuller answer here ) My blooms too doing a second round as if they are wanting to be the best they can be almost for the last time..
My Clematis which flowered in Spring is coming out again in Bud.. So is my Magnolia tree.. And my Cosmos which should have flowered in early Summer, I couldn’t understand why they have not flowered are only just producing buds.. Yes.. Nature is as confused with the energies as we are..
And yes.. Always will we stay TRUE to ourselves Amy.. Love and Hugs. ❤ HUGS.
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Reading your words, the thought did cross my mind that Mother’s Creatures and Creations are acting as though there will not be a Spring next year. Yet the moment that thought came along, I chased it with … I will not go into fear and I will believe that Love will form Spring of next year. I don’t know if we are in for a very harsh winter or what. Or is it because the Seasons themselves have become so confused and holding to patterns that are chaotic in nature that Mother’s Realm too are confused as well? One of my early Spring plants began to flower again just lately but then stopped. One of our trees never flowered in Spring (our Akuza Dogwood) and really did not do well at all this year. All we can do is survive whatever is coming and to adjust to the changes that are very evidently here now. I’m waiting on my Roses to stop flowering before I prune them back and ready them for winter. I hear we are in for abnormal high temps again this coming week. I will be out and about on bike and foot with camera in tow.
Our conversations are very dear to me, Sue. So many people lately don’t even converse anymore. Communications are shutting down even more and distance is even greater rather then less. I grow ever closer to Mother and am now really beginning to understand “cat” as though I actually hear what was being communicated. It’s freaking hubby out a bit that I KNOW what these cats (some not all) are saying or wanting.
Much LOVE to you and peace. I have a post coming I think tomorrow that should have you laughing. It’s about marriage and about a job I did with Hubby. LOL (((HUGS))) Amy
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PS. As for those with closed eyes, it is up to them and only them to choose to see. I have walked away from banging my head on a brick wall. (smile)
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True Amy.. We all wake up in our own given time.. This I feel Amy is a special opening for Transcending out of the Loop we have been trapped within for so long..
Sending HUGS your way as we journey onwards.. ❤
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Oh Amy these are such beautiful images … you have such a wonderful eye! How silly that those girls in the park treated you this way .. sounds like envy to me. Keep taking your gorgeous photos and sharing 🙂👏
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THANK YOU, Julie. I’m amazing myself by what I am doing lately with my camera. As for those girls … they are the ones that missed out, not me. May you have a great weekend!!! ☺️
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Just love the effects you used to enhance the colors of your photos. So beautiful! I think honesty with self is the most difficult, yet the most rewarding thing one can achieve in the growth process, otherwise one lives a life in the shadows of deception. Clarity can bring new beginnings. 🙂
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THANK YOU regarding my images, Olga. I’m still learning “new”. Yes honesty with self is challenging indeed especially when we excuse ourselves for doing or saying something we “know” is not honest. I know a few people who excuse themselves never taking responsibility for themselves. In actuality, it is their loss for they are loosing valuable learning opportunities. I love how you said ….”Clarity can bring new beginnings.” NICE! 💝
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Beautiful pictures!
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THANK YOU!! 💕😚💕
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You’re very welcome! (smile)
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What a beautiful message, Amy! Accompanied by gorgeous fall pictures. Love them ❤ Sad that you got such an adverse reaction…I've experienced it once at the salt marsh and that's an "ouch".
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THANK YOU, Helen! And yes that kind of reception I received that day, as you do know, really does hurt. SO glad you stopped by to see this post. (((HUGS))) Amy
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Your pictures are once again…fantastic. I don’t care what you did to them…wow and thank you.
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Wow back at ya and a huge thank you for encouraging me to continue on the path I find myself on right now!! Bless you, Gigi!! 😘
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Really beautiful photos Amy, you are getting better and better 😀
I feel sure, that fear are running those not open-minded people. Fear for living at all, sad.
Honest people are attractive for not honest people, why we get hurt sometimes. They seem to think, that we are naive and easy to cheat, even if this is not the question.
Let us live in honesty as much as possible.
Much love to you, dear friend ❤
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Irene, I’m glad you have noticed how my photography has improved. It seems of late something within me has blown wide open and as a result what I am doing is putting me in awe of myself! I had two posts up which I took down all having to do with the death of the horse next door to me. I wrote a less then truthful version of what happened. The person who I targeted the post at read my words, confronted me, and as a response I posted a public apology to her. LONG story with this horse as also what I have done for the animals from this barn. Anyways I was less then honest which I admitted. I however instead of continually kicking myself, I chose to get back up on the honesty horse. Yes people for the most part are less then honest due to fear. My reason was anger. NEVER act in anger …. I know this yet still I did due to my breaking heart. Anyways …..
Glad you got something from this post. I’m just now turning the corner by getting back on my feet after almost succumbing to all the sorrows and pain in my life. I’m now fighting back! Much Love to you!! 💝
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I do remember, that you have told me about this horse before and know, that you did your best for that animal too, Amy. I’m sorry to hear about your loss.
You are right, never act in anger, but sometimes it becomes difficult not to do…
Much love ❤
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Cherish’s death was a blessing in disguise, Irene. I was so worried regarding how she could possibly make it through the cold of winter. All this Summer she was so thin and looked quite ill. Three days before her death she looked at me for a long time and kissed my arm. Neither action she did but that day she did. *tears* Now I have no worries for I know she is in a much better place. Much Love to you!! 🌹🌹🌹
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Oh AmyRose, I am so touched by the vulnerability of your post. This is beautiful. It takes a lot of courage to re-teach yourself how to be intimate with yourself and others. Honesty is such an important piece of that, and gives a safe space to be who you are. Acceptance is another really good quality, isn’t it? Sending you such loving – you have a lot of courage, AmyRose. And, I’m honored to share this post for #ForgivingFridays tomorrow. Blessings to you. Debbie
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Debbie, this post arose from out out of a very painful and embarrassing situation, one in which I was less then honest, painting a situation with a twist that was not nice, as I told others about this situation. I was called on my behavior and was ripped up one side and down the other by the person who I made to look bad, yet, because I did not allow anger to fuse the anger that was coming towards me, but instead just stood there with flaming face repeatedly saying … I am so sorry. Please forgive me … the anger was defused and this person ended up hugging me, and forgiving me. When our Hearts hurt horribly we are all capable of striking out (as we learned how to do as children) in an attempt to make that hurt go away. Bless you for saying I have courage. At times this Journey I find myself on is far from easy. As well you know. Many Blessings to you!! 💝
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I lose more relationships over this single principle. People never seem to get that my honesty is paramount to my progress. Instead, they care about my being “nice” to them in order to support their addictions (which is to say them feeling safe and comfortable). Then again, I’ve also learned that when I fall off the honesty wagon, I do so because I am resistant to feel the discomfort that arises in me when others project disapproval at me. So, it’s a work in progress.
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Those relationships were never meant to be if the other person does not know how to be honest. Most of my family do not associate with me because of this principal. We were not taught to be accountable, to be truthful as children, so my brothers and sisters, for the most part, do not appreciate openness and truth.
Do not compromise you, Phoenix. And yes we all do fall, for we are human after all and learning our Lessons. If others do not accept you for who you are, and would rather you be who they want you to be, you know right there that relationship will to go too far. Oh yes this is a work in progress as we ourselves learn to be upright and truthful, and learning as we do how to be diplomatic to those who are less then honest themselves.
Hope you had a really good Christmas. Much Love to you and keep up the great work!! (((HUGS))) 💞
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It seems that most people expect the compromise, doesn’t it? When you said, “Don’t compromise…” I smiled realizing that someone else in the universe gets it. When I try to explain to people this concept of compromising being a principle that essentially says everybody loses, they furrow their brow. In my opinion, only once we make the decision to stay humble and honest can a REAL love transaction happen. I recently ended another relationship that was rooted in conditional love. It’s not easy work. So many say that loving is easy, but I find it to be easy only when two people come to the relationship unconditionally loving. When one comes unconditionally loving and the other expectant, then it’s hard to even communicate. The last conversation I shared with the person I dissolved my relationship with, I spent the last ten minutes of the phone call silent. He didn’t understand what was up with me. I simply said, “I’m shutting down…” Once I learn that another person rejects the innate person I am and expects me to put up a facade or make them comfortable, I find myself shutting down. It’s info to me though. More work to do. (I still feel pain at the rejection, so I’ve got work to do, I mean). I hope that you had a wonderful holiday as well. Hugs!!
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I saw you replied yesterday, but I couldn’t respond at that moment. When I returned to respond, your response was gone. 🤔 I must have deleted it by accident. 🤭
I do remember quite a bit of it. For starters, I’m so very sorry for your loss! And such an important person in your life too. That has to be hard. I completely empathize with you. XOXO!!
And then losing his family on top of it. 😔
I was thinking, it seems we share a lot in common and maybe communicating via email would be easier? My email is phoenixinspiring100@gmail.com. Absolutely NO pressure, I’m simply offering.
Much love!
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I deleted my response because I did not feel it appropriate to have that kind of information public. I would love to talk to you via email. I am accountable for every action I take. And I must maintain a line between what is private (for me) and what is not.
We will talk more privately. Thank you, Phoenix! XOXO
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