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It is not necessarily
the words we speak
per se
but rather it is 
the tone in which
they are delivered
that speak the clearest
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A woman’s voice on the radio caught my attention.  As I stood there absolutely fascinated I listened to what I already knew, yet in the webbed tangles of what my life had become, I had somehow forgotten.

The way in which words are said make all the difference in the world, depending on the tone of voice.  I personally cringe at certain tones while I smile at others.  A person could be using a so-called “swear or vulgar” word yet it is the delivery, the tone, that sets that word apart.  Do I cringe or do I smile?

Because I talk a lot to cats, my voice is very soft in both tone and pitch.  Usually.  When tension hits I can “hear” it in my voice and I even cringe myself.  Have you every wondered why you are attracted to someone’s voice while another’s repels you?

It’s all in the tone.  That brings to memory a silly story a very good friend of mine told me that made me laugh.  She said that you could call your dog (or cat) mean and terrible names yet if you speak in a soft and loving tone, that dog (or cat) will not be repelled.

Now I am not recommending to say nasty things in a pleasing tone.  That is not the point of this post.  I wish to bring you awareness that when you speak, it is the tone and the intent of the words that count the most.  Think of the chanted OM.  That to me is truly one of the greatest examples of soothing and calming tones.

And that is how I intend my voice to be all the time.  It’s a goal I have for 2018, to be more conscious of the way I present my words in both tone and pitch.  Care to join me?

As with everything, it all begins with us.

Here is the original image unedited, just resized:

Cool?
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Photography/ “Tone Counts”/ December 2018©AmyRose
http://www.herladypinkrose.wordpress.com

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  1. I agree! Having worked with special needs kids I’ve been soft spoken. Having dealt with the cruelty of how society treats an inmate’s wife, I watched myself turn away from soft spoken into assertiveness which led into a rudeness I don’t even like. This should be a goal for me as well.

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    1. We live in parallel lives. My cats are “special needs” … There is so much cruelty in today’s world and I just do not wish to add to it. What I have suggested here is not easy especially when our lower emotions become stirred up or when exhaustion overtakes our good intentions. Thank you for considering this to be a goal for you too. Bless you! Much Love to you! 💝

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  2. Your original photo changed really much by playing, Amy 🙂

    You are right, how we speak and how loud or silent are different for each of us.
    I’m best for the soft and silent, both to talk and listen.
    People, who has a very loud or screaming voice, I often avoid. The hairs at my bag are raising themselves, when I hear this kind of talking and I disappear as fast as possible.

    Like mostly, I can also raise my voice, but need to feel very strongly to do it, which is not that often happening.

    Much love to you, dear friend ❤

    NB: How are you today?

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    1. Dearest Irene, I am not surprised by what you told me, no, not at all. I’ve learned how to stand firm before a voice that is harsh but I can only do that for so long. I’ve been very quiet contemplating my life and absorbing everything that has occurred. Just know I am doing as well as can be, recovering from a bad case of hives on my face, and praying for guidance as to how to live life in 2018. Much Love to you, dear friend! 💞

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      1. Good to hear, that you are recovering well, Amy.
        I’m also able to stand up for myself, if anyone are yelling or so at me, I learned that too. But what I thought about before, was more when I’m out and away from my house, maybe visit a bar for coffee, as are very usual to do here in Spain and there are loud people or coming loud people, I end fast and disappear, otherwise I can’t find myself for hours.
        Love and healing your way ❤

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      2. I’m the same way, Irene. My “spirit” is just too sensitive to hang around these heavy energies. Yes I am slowly recovering. Thank you for all you have done for me!! (((HUGS)))! 💝

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  3. I live with a mentally ill husband and my tone is always soft and calm to reassure him he safe and all is well in his world.
    You are so correct about voice tone/

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    1. My husband has PTSD from Nam and stress, any stress, can trigger him and he’s off into anxiety. I feel like a “parent” many times, as I speak to him in very calm tones to get him to pull out of his “state”. God bless you for what you do. I walk your shoes. It is extremely challenging. When we succeed it is such sweet success! Much Love to you! 💞

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  4. Hi Amy,

    you are so right. I believe that is all about frequency.Voice has its own frequency, but is also a channel for our thoughts and emotions.We hear and understand such a voice better than some loudly voice. Great post

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    1. Ben, it is all about frequency for that is all that exists. When we adjust our “frequency” not just voice … but our entire being to that of Peace, Love, OM, we then are able to connect to the Higher Frequencies to “become” them. Exciting stuff!! 🤗

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  7. Hey Amy! It’s true, tone really does matter. It can be as drastic a change as you portrayed in your photo. A friend of mine did exactly as you mentioned – spoke mean words in a soft tone to his dog and the dog was getting excited and jumping up and down like it was going to get a treat! Then he spoke nice words in a hard tone and the dog changed. I’ll join you in being more conscious of my tone and pitch because it really does make a difference! ❤️⛄️love and hugs to you! Donna

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    1. Donna, once you become aware of this concept, the world changes. You can understand so much just by the tone of voice even when others are not speaking from “truth”. Thank you for joining me in this life changing “habit”. The more Love we incorporate into our lives the more Love we attract to ourselves. (((HUGS))) Amy🌹

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  8. Hi Amy 🙂 Both of the photographs look cool! 🙂 ❤ My new year started the day after the Winter Solstice. I wake up in the morning with a quiet small smile on my face knowing that even if I can't tell yet, the amount of daylight is getting every so slightly longer each day. Yippee!!! 🙂 I don't really do the year in review or the promises to myself for the new year. I know people who find it to be constructive. I figure that if I am going to make a change I might as well start trying to do it Today with the realization born of experience that habits are hard to change. We all have so many of them. Maybe it is because I am the youngest of my family of four, but I am quiet and have a relatively long pause time when I encounter destructive energy. I am usually silent in the face of it since I don't know what to say. It is a rare occurrence that I will be harsh in words or tone with anyone. It happens even less as I get older. I've run out of energy for conflict and I didn't have much energy for it to begin with. If I were to say what I am thinking in the situations where destructive energy comes my way, it would likely push buttons. I may get to the point where I do anyway. 🙂 What would I say? I would suggest the person cultivate their observer and learn how to push the pause button when they feel like sending destructive energy out or in, for that matter. Pause for a moment or longer to consider where this energy is coming from. What is the feeling behind it? For myself, upset whether it be fear or loneliness or sadness comes from having lost my connection to spirit or not feeling it strongly enough. This happens when I am tired, cold, or feel like I have to be in too much of a hurry to have quiet moments of prayer and contemplation. I know people who don't believe in spirit either because they have shut down too much to feel it or because they don't want to believe for some reason. I have compassion for this way of being because it is a hard path to walk. I don't feel like participating in the energy pattern that results from this disconnection. As a recovery people pleaser, I find it hard to let others sort out their upset for themselves even though this might be just what they need to do. I pray for them and for guidance in how to be graceful in my interactions with others. I let them be upset with me if that is what they chose to do. I hope you are getting lots of rest and staying warm! Love and blessings to you. ❤ ❤ ❤

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    1. Hi, Sarah! My intention was not to have this post as something to do for a New Year Resolution. I personally don’t do New Year Resolutions because I’ve learned from past experiences I usually don’t stick with them. I have “resolutions” throughout the year as my Heart guides me. When I heard this woman talk on the radio, it was a lightbulb moment for me, reminding me of something I know, yet forgot in the explosion of painful events occurring in my life. From all you have written, it shows, really shows, how much you have worked on yourself and you really need to be very proud of yourself. As you say, and I know, patterns are not easy to change. It takes time and repeatedly doing a new behavior before habit is formed. There was a time we had to shut the water off for repair work and I cannot tell you how many times I went to wash my hands. Yep. Habit. Hope you are enjoying your Holidays. I am. 🙂 My “kids” are keeping me hopping but I am taking time just to have ME time too. FYI … I have become a “professional” observer and have learned SO much just by being so. My “intuition” usually tells me exactly where a person is coming from and why. Usually. Some are so good at hiding themselves that even I am not able to get a “reading”. I have some I know whose hearts are hidden so deeply they truly are so so lost. I too pray for them. And I do not allow them in my personal space. Anyways …. Have a great evening!!! Thank you so much for your thought provoking comment!! Much Love to you! 💞

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    1. OH yes, body language too! Absolutely! Hate to me is a very strong word personally, and so avoid using it. If I am unable to connect to someone especially one I care about, I pray for them. I don’t allow their “stuff” to effect my life however. I’ve become a keep observer and usually know exactly if a person is open or closed. Thank you for adding body language. Much Love to you!! 💝

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      1. I am not as experienced as you are but i also try not to get affected by others actions. obviously i don’t hate them but i just start ignoring them. much love.. ❤

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      2. Experience comes with “age” as I have come to see it. You are a lot further along then I was when I was your age. I am very aware of who I allow in my personal space. That is a subject for another post. (smile) May you have a wonderful day today!! ☺️

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    1. Once you begin taking notice of your tone and pitch and even your body language, you will ask yourself how you didn’t notice before. LOL I laugh yet … this is not kid stuff and it really is challenging especially when I tend to get hot under the collar. 😉 So glad you took the time to read this post. Thank you!! 💞

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    1. I do my best to write as clearly as possible, Holly. If someone misinterprets what I am saying, and yes it has happened, it is not on me. I do my best not to provoke but calm the situation but if that person is still ready for a fight I just don’t even respond. For this reason I only answer comments up to the point I feel myself getting tired and I always edit (reread) what I have written before I send it. Sometimes when I use Google Speech instead of typing my response, I boo boo and don’t catch it. 😉 Have a beautiful evening, Holly. Bless you! 💝

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    1. Baby steps, YellowCable. Your first step of change is to observe not only your voice but those around you. How do those voices make you feel? This is a process and you are changing a habit of speaking the way you normally do. Change is far from easy but yet, with practice and determination to change, you can do it. And when you get really good at this, you can spot a phony baloney voice from a mile away that wants you to think one thing but really meaning another. Awareness is THE key to change because face it, you are unable to change something you aren’t even aware of. Let your Heart be your guide. And another tip I got just today … before you blurt out something if you are angry for example, stop, count from 5 to 0, THEN speak the way you would like to change to. Lots to think about here …. just go slow and be gentle on YOU. 🙂 ❤

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  14. Very cool photo, the things we can find in in our creations…even in the new ‘soothing’ you. I can ‘feel’ the change, and is a representation of what you have become from your journey kind lady. Beautiful! ❤

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    1. Thank you for the feedback, Mark. I’m still not sure what I have become from this Journey yet, I definitely know there have been changes. Bless you for confirming that my Intentions are manifesting. Much Love to you! 💞

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      1. You don’t have to worry over what you are becoming Amy, just be you in whatever you do. Follow the integrity of your heart and it will create something unworried, unselfish and un-believable in your life. A total acceptance of you and a peace and love like no other. Initially you are so used to worrying over everything, but slowly it will disappear and begin a new way of being 😀

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      2. *eyes bulging* Mark, just this morning I stood in my kitchen. The Quiet around me was complete. I felt totally at Peace. I began to speak to my Mother and I “felt” she was sitting knitting, which she told me she was. We chatted for a while. Just last night I decided to stop “fighting” certain aspects of my life and accepting them. I’m slowing down. It feels good. And as I stop running and doing the tension is leaving my body. Here it is bitter cold outside and normally I would be fretting that I am not getting my walks and hikes in. It’s just too cold for me to be outside. Instead, I say to me … What’s the use in worrying (about getting out of shape) when I could just with faith know I have a healthy body and all is right? So much is happening … I could talk your ear off for hours so much is changing and so quickly. Wow! Thank you for the confirmation! 🤗🤗🤗

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      3. Just go with the flow Amy. The universe will still put things in front of you, but that is so you can ‘see’ where you are at. Enjoy the flight…and no, you don’t have to give the wings back 😀 ❤

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      4. You reminded me of something I have been saying for years. And I really don’t know what I am talking about but I said and still do say… This life I am earning more colors for my wings. LOL

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  17. I so agree with your perspective on tone and delivery. As you mentioned, you could say a vulgar word, and say it in a light-hearted situation and no one would mind. Sometimes it is hard to control how we delivery what we want to say – our heart works too fast and out come the words in a manner that may offend someone. This can be hard to control because for some of us, speaking out loud is the best way we can express ourselves and feel better for it…or just feel better for a momentary moment as I prefer to see it. The way words said affect how others feel, and how we say it can leave a lingering feeling for better or worse on another person. Personally, I am very blunt myself and really, really, really dislike mincing my words. But over time I’ve found that doesn’t always sit well with people and that I’m afraid has made some people take a step back from me, and made them afraid. It’s the last thing I want. and so this is a part of me I will have to continuously work on.

    Hope all is well and you are well too, Amy. Much hugs ❤

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    1. We who tend to speak our minds must learn diplomacy and that comes with time and experience, Mabel. Unfortunately this world at large takes offense at just about anything we who speak candidly and many times twists what we said into something we did not say at all. This happened to me recently which hurt me tremendously and even when I insisted we talk about the misunderstanding so we both could put to rest this misunderstanding, the other person only backed up and told me she needed space from me. When you speak “Truth” many will fear you. I did not practice diplomacy at this time due to very very painful emotions assaulting me. So I KNOW how it feels to be singled out, pushed away, feared, all because we happen to speak Truth. Since this incident I’ve been looking at all my existing relationships and to my Joy, not one is left where I must “be careful” what I say. It’s freeing. But when I interact with those who are not in my personal circle, I weigh my words very carefully, just like I do here in my comments. Some, like you, I can speak honestly and candidly to and those are the conversations I love the most! I encourage you to be aware of those who are in your personal life and IF you are not able to have heart-to-heart conversations with them (parents excluded 😉 ) ask yourself … Do you really wish to have these people in your “inner circle”?
      I hope my words help you in some way in looking at your life from a different perspective. I respect you immensely and I really understand how you feel. You’re right. You don’t want others to fear you, so do you practice diplomacy or do you rethink things IF they are in your personal life? These are many times very difficult decisions, nothing to be taken lightly. Seek Guidance from your Heart about this …. I can “feel” your confusion. I wish you only the best, and for this coming 2018, may you begin to understand the complexity of human relationships and how to interact according to whom. (smile) Good luck! (((HUGS))) Amy🌹

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      1. ‘When you speak “Truth” many will fear you.’ I so agree with this, and you said it so truthfully, so honestly. It is always better to speak the truth than to tell a lie. However, as you illustrated with the person whom you had a misunderstanding with, sometimes they might not take kindly to your words and perception and then want to move along and move away from you. To be honest, I think they are entitled to move away from us if they wish. But if we had said what we said differently, it could be a different story. The thing I really dislike about peeople walking away in fear is that they think someone is better than them – personally I feel no one is better than another person and we can all learn from each other.

        It is a great question to ask if we want them in our inner circle, and it is something I will keep in mind. You know what, you are right in sensing confusion from this end…you do have a gift for sensing 😀 Wishing you a great year ahead and more insightful posts from you. Hugs ❤

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      2. Relationships are complex, Mabel, and it takes maturity and confidence to stand up to certain individuals to say, no more. It hurts. Oh yes it hurts. Yet when time passes and you see how much better your life is in ways you wouldn’t have known if those individuals were still in your life, you will know you made the right choice. As for me sensing … I’m an “empath” … 😉 (((HUGS))) Amy🌹

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      3. There will be time for hurt, and then here will be time for feeling amazing. Wishing you more ’empath’ moments in the year ahead, and let the light and heart guide you ❤ ❤ ❤

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  19. Fun stuff you do with your photographs AR….You are absolutely right about tone. Over and over as children we were warned “don’t say that”, “don’t use that word”, but I never once was told in what tone to speak. I was never enlightened to the incredible importance of tone. I doubt many of us were. Better late than never to learn I guess…Tone awareness is non existent now a days….Stay warm and peaceful….Hugs…VK ❤

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    1. Oh yeah, VK, I LOVE being a kid in the editing room. LOL I keep saying I must write down what I am doing but that would be an adult thing to do and wreck the fun. 😉 You are so right about when we were kids …. words and words only were focused on. Never words dripping with sarcasm, or cruelty, or anger, or hate, or ridicule. Huh. How about that? I’ve become very very aware of tone since I have been with animals so many hours of my day. They unlike humans are much more aware and tuned in to. frequencies then we are. That is no longer true for me and sometimes I wish I could turn my “frequency reader” off. I, for now will keep on ringing the bell to get others to become aware how important tone and pitch and even body language are. Communication goes far and above words …. words to me mean nothing unless they are spoken from the heart and action is put to them (when required). Thank you for reading … May your 2018 be one in which both of us can shout …. YES! Finally! 🎉🎉🎉

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      1. Personally AR, I believe we are very close to telepathically communicating, I think that is what all the lying and corruption is about. It is the end phase before we move forward. After all we have endured lately, I think people will be far more ready for living in a world where people know what you are thinking which in turn will force honesty to rule. I look forward to such time. We have to be able to connect within before we can master telepathy. Right now that seems to be where many of us are at, getting our lives in order and reconnecting with self….It will be interesting to watch…Hugs and happy 2018….Bllessings…VK ❤

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  21. I always turn to the OM chant to ground myself and help me focus on what is really important in life; inner peace. Wonderful post on the importance of ‘tone’ in our relationships to life. Perfect image reflecting the abstract feeling of tonal quality. All the best to you in this new, creative year, Amy 🙂

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