I laid the law down. Firmly. Without rancor or anger I spoke softly. “This Christmas if I can do it so can you.” So on I went face-to-face with hubby. This Christmas no depression, no blues, no hiding. This year it will be smiles and having a good day!
Friends, if you are not married to a Veteran you do not know how miserable that Vet can get on Holidays. Well this year Thanksgiving was a win-win. So I’m taking the bull by the horns (When don’t I?) and declaring this year we will have a grand Christmas. Even better then Thanksgiving!
At the beginning of last week, I realized I had to do something fast because the sadness I was sinking into was getting me nowhere. I pulled way back to get quiet and assessed. What could I do to help ME get that smile back even if my Heart still is much too sad? Answers came and I acted upon them. Consistently. Even on the days I didn’t wanna.
And just like Thanksgiving, if tears should happen to fall on Christmas, they will. But I will not stay in the puddle of tears, that is for darn sure! It is my choice to be Happy this Christmas as I was for Thanksgiving.
Some of you may think I’m stuffing my emotions. I’m not. The pain is still very fresh and there are times within a day that I tear up missing my Mom so darn much. But I refuse to stay there. It is dangerous for me so I am now doing things to tickle the gladness back into my Heart.
We all have choices. I know many of you have lost Loved Ones and the Holidays are difficult to get through. But. Please think. Would your Loved Ones want you to be sad and spend that day crying the blues? Or would your Loved One want you to enjoy the Holiday and remember Christmases past with them, not with sadness but with a smile?
By gosh! If I can do this Happy bit on my first Christmas without a woman I Loved with all of my Heart and Soul, then you can do the Happy bit on Christmas too. It’s a choice. You really won’t regret choosing Happy. I will vouch for that!
This is not the sugary-sweet-teeth-on-edge-fake-phony-baloney-happy. No sirrree Bob! This is the genuine article straight from my Heart Happy!
The photograph is a picture with my cellphone as hubby was driving on a rainy night. I was experimenting with the pro settings and was very happy with the results I obtained. Then I wanted to play so I did in PS until I got this effect. I’d say it represents choices. Don’t you? I used several different filters and just pushed sliders until I just “knew” yup, I got what I was after. (smile)
Photography/ “Choose Happy”/ November 2017©AmyRose