Different is good. Different challenges us to expand and grow. And being with others who are different from us is good, too because we can learn from them and they from us.
Yet when different starts to “expect” the other to mold into their version of different even though that means disrespecting who that other person is, that is where I personally draw the line. I have fought high and low to find me, to celebrate my different-ness, and I joyfully share me with anyone who dares to embrace different.
All Hearts are not open to different, however, because different scares those Hearts. Different forces them to examine their ways and beliefs. Different brings questions and discussions and new perspectives into view. Have you ever found yourself saying, “Huh. I never thought of that in this way before.” I like that! To some that is unbearably frightening. Those who are very set in their ways or who refuse to interact with anyone except clones of themselves, are perpetuating fear. I avoid those shut-ins like the plague.
No one will force their will over mine. I will however be open to others’ views but do not push those views on to me or “expect” me to adopt them as mine. And if my views are not respected in return or looked down upon because some do not agree with me, please don’t let the door hit your butt on the way out same said door. You have no place in my life!
If any of us are going to resolve this huge isolation problem that is glaringly evident in today’s society, we must start embracing different. We just have to. And in so doing, we accept the other for who the other is and hopefully that other will accept us for who we are. How are the multitude of fractions everywhere one looks ever cease? How will we again be a “together” society, a people who are open to embrace different and who know how to get along with one another?
I so enjoy like-minded Souls who cross paths with me because they are the very ones who lift me as high as the sky. The Love that flows between us is contagious bringing so much Joy and Peace with it. But if we only allow like-minded Souls into our lives, how can we ever integrate different into acceptance? We can’t. For a wall will continue to be up so high between they and us that isolation will spread like a virus making hatred and misunderstanding grow.
We need answers in today’s world to solve this huge problem of isolation that has become epidemic. Being different has gotten a bad rap. I know that one too cause I’ve been on the receiving end of fear just by being me. As for those with closed minds who insist anyone who doesn’t behave or believe as they do are to be avoided, they are the very ones who have given themselves a prison sentence of ignorance and shame.
I must admit that I am very careful at this time of my life as to who I allow in my personal life. But I do have people in my life today who are very different from me, who push my buttons, who make me think, who stretch me to my limit and then some, in order for new growth to appear. If we do embrace different, yes at first it is uncomfortable but, if we just hang in there determined to accept and understand the other and the other you (it’s always a two-way street), a Love as you never even imaged will emerge.
I like different for different I am. (That sounded like “Sam I Am” by Dr. Seuss didn’t it LOL) And I would like to think that because of all I have been through, I know how to accept without judging others who are different then me. However, it takes two to show respect towards the other in order to have a healthy relationship to develop. When different “expects” me to change to become like they, no way Hosea. I’m outa here!
Photography/ “Different Dare”/ October 2017©AmyRose
Photographs taken at Reinstein Woods Nature Preserve Park, NY