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*Picture is of Rusty who is taking Tee’s death very hard.  Tee was Rusty’s special brother.  You can actually see the pain on his face and in his eyes.*

Three words, “I Love you”, have gotten stuck in my throat lately.  I question how those words can be said when the other person doesn’t know me.  I don’t say those words unless I mean them.  They are precious to me.

These words are also so much easier to say when traveling the Light side of Love but much hardier to say within the Dark side of Love.  Pain rules everything there.

The words, “I Love you” come effortlessly to my lips or my Heart when there is a real Heart Connection.  I love those words!  But this flinging them around when family drops into my life for a moment and then gone again or a mere acquaintance crosses paths with me, I have real problems saying those words.

I know what Real Love is and to attach a blasé attitude to those precious three words I just won’t do.   So many toss these words around without much thought at all or for that matter, out of context with the true meaning of those three words. Is it me or does it seem to be the “new rage” to say “I Love you” to just about anyone?

Is it the incredibly difficult place I find myself in that gives rise to questioning what those words “I Love you” really mean?

The only way those three precious words are spoken, as I see it, is when over time a relationship develops and mutual respect and acceptance from both parties have developed.  Comes a day when Love from the Heart bursts forth and the words come tumbling out effortlessly, “I Love you!”.  I just won’t throw around words that to me are a Gift because everyone else is.

Once upon a time I said “I Love you” a lot and in looking back I now see I did so out of my neediness to be Loved.  Over the passage of time and the Lessons that have evolved, my attitude towards those precious words have shifted and in so doing I now say them only when I mean them.

Please don’t get confused by this post.  I practice Unconditional Love with all I interact with yet to blab “I Love you” all over the place, I just don’t do.  At least I don’t anymore.  Perhaps it is in this Dark Night of the Soul I find myself in that is dictating why I feel the way I do.  For now this is what is for me.

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91 thoughts on “I Love You”

    1. Yes you are absolutely right, Donna. At the time I was saying those three words loosely, I really didn’t understand the depth of Love. Perhaps I don’t know yet still today but I do have a better grasp of what Love is. That I do know. And I have come to respect and honor those three words. 🐾🦋

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  5. Rusty has a difficult time now and this shall pass too, dear Amy ❤
    These three words are precious and not for throwing around with. I think, we learn this by age and experience. Send love and healing to all of you ❤

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  6. I think I did a very similar thing – saying I love you out of a need to feel loved. I now look at it very differently (relationships, too). I wonder if some people say it because it seems like the next logical step in a relationship? “Well, we’ve been dating for three months, better say I love you!” Hmm, maybe. I don’t know. I just know that my own views on it and ease with saying it has now changed. Oddly, I find it hardest to say to my immediate family (who I really do love) but I think that’s because we’ve never been that sort of family. I push aside the unease though at times just to make sure they know. I hope Rusty starts to feel better, and that you are also doing okay. 🌹

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    1. Yes, Arbie, it does seem more difficult to say those three words to close family. I have family who I don’t see for years and years and years and then all of a sudden they pop into my life and I hear the words I love you. That leaves me like I said questioning how can they when they don’t even know me? I guess with age I am just becoming more particular as to who I say those precious words to. I have many more besides Rusty who are suffering and with each day I put my observation skills on and assess and try to figure out what best to do. We will together get through this because we have been through this before. It is a huge transition anyway you look at it. 💕🐾💕

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    1. Dearest Ann, we’ve lost touch recently and it is because I’ve been thrown into the Dark night of the Soul. I lost my best friend to a heart attack on August 1st, a month later my Mother died of cancer on Sept. 1st, and three weeks later Tee was critically hit by a car and had to be euthanized. I thank you for your condolences. They mean so much to me. (((HUGS))) Amy🌹

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  8. It’s sad when animals are affected by loss, and we can’t really make them understand. We’ve been through this. They adapt, but it’s hard to watch. Keeping good thoughts for you guys.

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    1. I really do have my hands full, Dan. All of our cats are in shock and grieving. I have one just to give you an example who is not eating or drinking so I must feed her by hand. We were just getting onto stable ground from our three losses from last year and now this. It’s been tough. 💕🐾💕

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  11. I think we only realize what unconditional love means when we understand how conditional love feels. No confusion about this post. I hear you soooo well!
    Rusty’s look speaks volumes 😢 It reminds me of the deep sadness one of my guinea pigs showed when his buddy had died.

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    1. Erika, I’m not sure of much these days hence me asking a lot of questions and rethinking what life to me means. The birds have been entertaining my babies the last couple of days so some of their sadness has lifted. Many people don’t understand that animals have deep emotional feelings and yes they do suffer and grieve when a Loved One passes. Thank you for your support and telling me there is no confusion about this post. That means a lot to me! Much Love, Amy🌹

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      1. No, Amy, definitely no confusion. I totally get your feelings. I am glad to hear that nature is in such a oneness that even the animals comfort each other. Very poignant 💖

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  13. Your post feels very true and clear to me. There is a feeling of unconditional love and then there is true feeling of love towards another heart that comes as an expression of words …it is the river of love that flows from that ocean of Love …only at specific times.

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  14. Life can be cruel and quite often is very hard and so we tend to be on guard these days not knowing who we can trust let alone love. But open our hearts we must. I too look at love like you and yet as I was reading your post I started thinking that maybe it is time for me to learn how to love a whole new way…We tend to get stuck in our beliefs etc….Maybe freeing them and trying on new beliefs is what we are meant to be doing eight now. Who knows. It’s worth thinking about. Blessings and love…..VK ❤

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    1. The guard is down from my Heart, VK, and that is the main reason for the anguish I am feeling today. When I Love I Love with my everything. This is a “new” way of thinking for me, this not being as free with I Love you, as I used to be. It is so easy to say those words when we are high and light, but altogether a totally different matter when naught but pain exists. I’ve handed out “I Love you” to those who I sensed have closed or guarded Hearts and those words were never received. Oh yes this world needs Love desperately yet I’ve arrived at a place I will not be irresponsible with those precious words. When I say them I mean them. Sometimes they are premeditated and other times they just come flying out. It all depends on the Connection I feel. All of us are responsible for living from a State of Love and if some are not able to receive Love I will find those who do. I’m in a place nothing much makes sense so I am feeling my along blindly. What may hold to be True for me today may not be tomorrow. I don’t know much these days. Many Blessings to you and Much Love! 💝

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  17. Rusty is a beautiful cat! He does look sad. ❤ Being true to your spirit is where the answers lie, in my opinion. People express their affections and emotions in different ways. My Gran, my Dad's Mom, for example, wasn't someone who expressed her affection through words or hugs. She showed she cared about her children and grandchildren by talking with them about what they were doing, asking all kinds of questions, and giving her opinion like it or not! 🙂 I was a bit intimidated by her most of my life. I knew she loved us, though, without a doubt. After my grandpa passed away, when my sister and I would visit, I started giving her a little hug around the shoulders when we would leave. I don't think she minded. She was a little woman with a big personality. She lived to be a few months over 100. The last few years, she lived in a place near my parents. My Dad said that in that time they became friends. My Dad had a close relationship with his father, but apparently he and his Mom were often at odds. Most of this dynamic was out of my sight. When I read what you wrote about you and your Mom and the effort you made to connect with her the last several years, I thought about my Dad and his Mom. You did a wonderful thing for your mother by reaching out. I know this to be true even though I haven't met either of you. Sometimes people get stuck. They are so used to doing things a certain way that they can't find their way out. Right now, you are in a seriously painful spot and everything is amplified by the pain. Stay with what feels true to your spirit and follow the light this harmony offers you. ❤ Those who love you know you like I knew my Gran. I have this image of her in my mind when my sister and I were visiting and we were eating dinner. She was telling us a story of when she and my grandpa were dating. Her eyes lit up and she was smiling. She looked like a young girl in that moment. It was so sweet. There was a lot of love in their relationship even if it wasn't visible to the rest of the world in an easy way. Love and blessings to you. ❤ ❤ ❤

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    1. Oh my goodness, Sarah! You moved me tremendously with your comment. How sweet of you to talk about your Gram and then to correlate what I did with my Mom with your Dad and Gram. My Mom had difficulties expressing her emotions (her entire family is like this) and often times she would withdraw or get mean. Over the years she would express her LOVE to me with gifts of what she would make … one example a huge kingsized bedspread she crocheted. Can you imagine the time she spent doing this?
      And you are so right that I am in an extremely tough place. Thank you for encouraging me to keep listening to my Heart even if I don’t understand. That is all I know how to do. And thank you for telling me that those who really know me do Love me. I needed to hear that, dear friend. I’ve been so determined to create close family and friends not associated with biological family and that is exactly what I have been doing and still am. I seem to be an alien when it comes to my own siblings. I cannot thank you enough for how your words lifted my spirit up. The Love I feel interwoven in your words is amazing. Is that how you feel when you read my words, I wonder? (smile) Much Love and many Blessings to you! 💞

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      1. You are a sweetheart, Amy. ❤ You brighten so many lives and I very much appreciate your kindness to me. ❤ You have lots to do in this life once you make it through this tough spot. I am sure of this. 🙂 I look forward to seeing you shining in all of your various endeavors. I am hoping you will make more videos in the spring and summer to show your garden. The walking tour the other day was delightful and it was fun to see your cats! ❤ I have one sister and I am lucky to have a good relationship with her. We had the usual quarrelsomeness as children, but both decided without discussing it to become friends as adults. What is important is to have quality loving relationships more than how you are related biologically. There can be all kinds of complicated energy in families. I think often it is barely understood. It gets past down generation to generation and there is little or no instruction about how to break the cycle. How can one teach what one does not know? I am so happy for you and your Mom that you found a way between the two of you. ❤ It is wonderful that you have her handcrafted gifts to help you remember her. During the times when I felt hurt by family, I reminded myself that they didn't necessarily understand what they were doing. I don't say this to be patronizing. There is a lot of unawareness. I know how hard it has been for me to make my peace with life and find a way to let go and follow my heart. I don't imagine this is any easier for anyone else including my family. I forgive. I let go. I go to the quiet peaceful loving space inside of me and celebrate the wonder of life like a little girl witnessing her first spring. It is always there this place. I only have to decide to be there. In this place, All is forgiven and there is Joy. It is what I have been looking for all of my life and it was there waiting inside through all the stumbling about over the years. I forgive as I wish to be forgiven. And then, I think…. How Wonderful it is to be Alive! 🙂 Lots of love and Blessings to back to you! ❤ ❤ ❤

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      2. You carry much Wisdom, Sarah, Wisdom I myself have managed to glean. We only can understand and live that which we have been taught so thus these family patterns are passed down from one generation to the next. I however, seem to be the exception with my family. I have been determined since my NDE in 1984 to begin to unravel the mess that I was. Who I am today scares my siblings because they are not ready for Truth nor have they opened their Hearts in order to receive Love to the degree I have. I really tried to have a relationship with my one sister but failed due to she not open to who I am and me just not willing to compromise me anymore when with her. My Mom I had to really work with for her to bring down the guards around her Heart but there too cancer had a big part in her changing. She softened as she realized the end was near and in so doing came to really get a huge kick out of me, (oh how we got silly and just laughed and laughed!), falling in Love with my blog and being proud of who I have become. WE really talked honestly and openly and in some instances I asked for her advice as she listened to my troubles. Incredible that I got this opportunity to touch my Mom’s Heart! Once I get over this terribly difficult place I am in, so much of what had been weighing me down is now gone so … that being said, a whole new life is ahead of me.
        I’m going to confide something to you. I tried to have traditional counseling through Hospice but only went once, knowing it just wasn’t for me. This what I am doing here through my blog, what I am writing and the conversations I am having with those whose Connections I cherish, these are the very tools that are assisting me to work through my pain. YOU and others have become my Angels in my time of darkness. I am so touched especially with what you have been writing that just leaves me so touched and just a little more whole. Your ability to “feel” and then to be real amazes me … in you I see me. How cool is that? The kindness and support you and others have shown to me blow me away. I am SO glad I came across your blog and began talking to you. You are very very special …. I really hope you know this. I look forward in joining you in that Inner Place where only JOY exists for I know it well. There have been times I have blissed out so much I felt as if I was tripping or floating. Yes it is wonderful to be alive. Life is a Gift!!! God bless you for helping me. Thank you thank you thank you!!! 💞🌹💞

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      3. I am happy to hear you and your Mom were able to be silly together!! The picture you paint of the two of you laughing makes me smile. 🙂 ❤ Sometimes, it can take a dramatic event to get our attention. It took a few dramatic events to get my full attention and a lot of outdoor time and tears and prayers to find my way out. The results are priceless as you know and I wouldn't trade the knowledge gained for anything. You have helped so many, Amy, and now when you need help and you Asked, others help you. And in letting others help you, you also help them. How about that? 🙂 ❤ I have no doubt that when you are feeling stronger, you will be helping others whether they are humans or animals with even more energy than before. I was thinking about an experience I had a couple of years ago last night after I wrote the comment. Two and 1/2 years ago, I traveled for the weekend to a park near where I used to live. It was in the spring around my birthday when the bluebells bloom in the woods there. I used to visit the park to see the bluebells on my birthday when I lived there and I wanted to see them again. On the Saturday, the day after my birthday, I was walking west on the path in the woods. I came upon a small family, Mom, Dad, little girl, and little dog. The dog was stepping dainty unsure whether this was a place he wanted to be. The little girl was full of wonder eyes wide open. They stopped and her Dad took her hand to walk her into the blue-eyed Mary flowers on the side of the path. They settled in to pose for a photo taken by her Mom. When I reached them, I asked if they would like me to take the photo so they could all be in it. I took a couple. I hope one of them turned out. They thanked me as I was leaving. I looked at the little girl and she gave me a big smile and giggled. What a blessing! It was the best possible birthday present a reminder that we all are like the small child deep inside full of wonder and excitement and happiness. She was content and happy and safe with her family at that moment. Will she remember this moment? Maybe only the feeling of it. I hope she keeps it as an anchor as she grows up. I know I have this anchor in me. I have felt it there all along especially when outside. I hope this new day brings you closer to feeling whole again. May God Bless you and keep you, sweet Amy. ❤ I am praying for you. I added your cats to my prayers as well. I am hoping you will introduce us to all of them at some point. 🙂 ❤ ❤ ❤

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      4. I am learning in a major way to ask for help, Sarah, something that has not come easily to me. There is no greater satisfaction then genuinely reaching out to another and to give others that opportunity with me, I know from my own experience, that what you say here is true … that I in return am helping them. It’s an infinite Circle of Love and it is beautiful to “see”. Your description of the little girl and the blue bells took me to a place I know so well, that one I call “NOW”. Thank you. I do hope that little girl maintains at least the feeling of what that experience gave her. Again I really thank you for your prayers. I’m very focused on shutting some doors, accepting what has happened and to move on, and to bring JOY back into my Heart. Be careful what you ask for regarding my cats … I have 11 of them and 2 more outdoors. LOL That’s a lot of cats! Much Love to you and a deep heartfelt (((HUG))), Amy🌹

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  18. You are connecting on a much deeper level Amy, and in doing so you are being asked to ‘see’ your heart from another level, one where you can ‘see’ others ❤
    Yes, those words may be uttered offhandedly by others, but within that you will 'see' their fear and the cause of needing that love returned. But your heart will begin to understand that and give a more loving and compassionate feeling towards them because of that.
    This is a very difficult time because of all you have been through, but it will show you a love more beautiful because of what you will have understood in its path ❤
    Big hugs my friend, may that love embrace you and your 'family' in this trying time ❤

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    1. Oh, Mark, may you know how much your words meant to me! I’m admitting I know next to nothing right now but just following the direction of my Heart. For you to say I am going on a deeper level, makes perfect sense to me. I’m forging so deep that the pain of doing so is unbearable. Do you recognize how much I am baring my Heart to everyone here, in allowing you to see the Truth of my life? That takes courage. And it is also proving to someone who off-handedly said to me that blogging is so fake. I have a post written about that experience but I’m waiting on my Heart to direct me to post it. It is downright scary to show the world at large that I’m falling apart and that I’m asking questions as my life before me I don’t recognize anymore. Thank you from the bottom of my sore Heart for the huge and I mean huge encouragement you have given me today. Bless you, dear friend! Bless you! 💝

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      1. Love and light to you also Amy, your heart is shining very well my friend, and your courage too. Just follow that love within, that truth that will guide you truly. If people could ‘see’ underneath this journey, that their entire purpose is to find that self love, they would be astounded. You will become more aware of it as time goes by because it must be done slowly to allow us to adjust and understand fully what this ‘dark night of the soul’ means to us, and the changes it brings forth ❤
        And you 'know' the worth of sharing on here, it allows a truth and the release of those many expectations from others because there is no judgement and an acceptance of exactly who you are. There is no love stronger than the acceptance of self Amy, so just be you ❤

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      2. My blog has become my therapy, Mark. I tried to go to traditional counseling through Hospice but I knew in just going once it wasn’t for me. I have real trouble knowing there is a 50 minute time limit hanging over my head and I had to talk and make sense. Let’s just suffice it to say, no go. And about that self-love … you know it. It feels wonderful to walk on this earth not caring if I’m having a bad hair day but rather I fully accept me as is. I almost laughed out loud the other day as I walked towards the entrance to our grocery store. I’ve been out of it truth be told and as I was walking I suddenly stopped checking to make sure I had decent clothes on. I actually in that moment had no idea what I was wearing or if I was even decent. LOL No joke. Today at the library I got lucky and came across really good books and it’s a good thing too because I couldn’t get out of there fast enough. I felt as if I might pass out. So yeah …. this passage has been unbelievably difficult leaving me at times so far from who I usually am. Thanks so much for being a part of my therapy, Mark. I will never forget your kindness and your reaching out to me. Bless you a thousand times over! 🌈

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      4. I would have been a tad embarrassed if I had my pajama bottoms on with a teeshirt. I’ve done that before … just sayin’. *sigh* Glad I could give you a laugh. 🙂

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  19. I am praying for you and Rusty. You have been through a lot of loss and in a short while. I care- we all do. Some people aren’t suppose to “be there” often-only to drift in and out for seasons. We do not expect this from “Family” but it may well apply. . .just a thought. Know you are thought of you and Heaven will hear yours and Rusys’ name tonight.

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    1. Thank you, Michele. My family unfortunately is not involved in my life and too many years have gone by without them being even remotely in my life. They no longer know me for who I am and I no longer know them either. On the chance occasion that our paths again cross usually when someone dies, I begin to hear the words I love you a lot. This really begins to get me to question who’s kidding whom here? How could you possibly love me when you don’t even know me? Regarding the prayers… Please include my other babies. I have a total of 11 indoor beautiful precious cats all who are Mourning and I have 2 outdoor Barn cats who are mourning as well. My husband and I are barely getting away from this house right now and when we do have to go out we make sure one of us is still home. It breaks my heart to see such sadness here. God bless you and God bless all here through my blog who have shown me love and who have given me their support. It is so much more then what my own family has shown to me which is absolutely nothing. Much Love to you this day. 💕🐾💕

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      1. I am glad love is showing up for you and it doesn’t surprise me one bit. It is really a sad loss that your family is missing the beautiful light you bring in your presence. You are such a treasure to know-i am praying for you and all your sweet cats too

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      2. When my family are ready, Michele, the Messenger will show up. It just won’t be me. Thank you and Bless you for your prayers for me and my cats. Today has been the best day yet since the shock of Tee’s injuries that led to death. Hubby and I are barely leaving this house right now and when we do one of us always stays home. 🐾💞

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    2. One other thing, Michele. I have usually been the one who does the calling or texting in the past years and I have arrived at a place in my life I’m no longer doing it. We all make our choices and I go and do and live my life in the best possible means I have.

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  21. My heart breaks for Rusty, they feel pain as we do, they grieve their loss. Beautiful message Amy, I like the honesty here, I have never been one to overly show emotion, but I have to say , I find some of these pets and God’s creature so endearing. xx

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    1. All of us are unique and special, Holly. I used to say “I Love you” a lot but lately, no. I’ve come to really honor and respect those three words so I no longer just say them casually. Thank you for the encouragement for me to keep being honest, which is not easy at times, believe me. My Heart breaks for Rusty as well as all the others in this home that are grieving for their brother Tee. I have received more Love from my cats then I have from most humans. It’s no wonder I LOVE them so much! Blessings to you! 🐾💞

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      1. I can really relate to your devotion to your animals as an animal advocate and owner of these loving creatures. They may be a part of our lives but we are their lives and hope people appreciate the unconditional love they give us.

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  22. I’ve been thinking about what you said. I say I love you in a lot of different ways, with a lot of different meanings. When I hang up, after talking with my cousin, we both say, “love you,” we’ve always said it and we always will. That happens with a couple of my good friends as well. When I tell animals I love them it comes from the deep, never ending passion I feel for them. Saying it doesn’t seem like enough. It means something different when I say it to my daughter and grandkids. It’ meant something incredibly when I said it to my love twenty times a day. I’ve told people who needed to hear it that I loved them and meant it in a general way, hoping things got better for them. It’s a versatile phrase and can be said in a number of ways, meaning number of things. It’s not like that forever one, of course. I just feel like there’s plenty of love to go around and we might as well give it freely. People accept it and understand what it means int heir own way. When someone tells me they love me I know how they mean it. Context is everything. So, that’s my take on it. I love your cat. I’m sorry he’s grieving. I really do love your cat because I love cats, so Rusty falls into that circle of deep love I have for them. How could it be any other way?

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    1. And I in turn have been thinking about what you said, Gigi. “I Love you” came to my lips so easily and like you said I showed it or said it in endless different ways, all with different meanings. Now that I find myself in this Dark Night of the Soul those words have gained more meaning and in so doing, I am hesitant to say them to those who I have little contact with. I have more connection here with some people then my own family. Sad but true. Am I being “conditional” in being particular who I say “I Love you” to? I don’t know. All I do know, however, is that my Heart is very uncomfortable right now saying those words as freely as I once did. For me there is no right or wrong but only that I follow what my Heart directs me. Perhaps it is for a Lesson or two. I don’t know that either. But I am being very honest here and showing all who come here my Heart, something that many cannot do. I’m also taking some of the heart touching comments to “heart”. I’ve received more support and Love from people who have become my friends that leaves me humbled and so very grateful. As for my Rusty, there are 10 others and then 2 more outside that I have been doing my best to comfort. I wish I could take their pain away but that is not possible. I can however give them lots of TLC. Thank you for your comment, Gigi. My Intent is to swing back to the place I say “I Love you” with ease when the pain of my Heart subsides from a voracious roar to a dull ache. Bless you and Much Love! 💝🐾💝

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      1. I understand completely. I never say it to people I don’t feel good about, including family members. No doubt about that. You’re going through a difficult time. You’ll just have to wait until you come out on the other side. We never really get over those we lose. Each one dims our light in some way. Makes us heavier. At least that’s been my experience. Love costs something when it’s taken away. It takes part of us with it. Whatever you do with your babies, they understand. Cats are like that. They are intuitive and try to their love to you as well. If your sick, they sit on you, or lay on your pillow, or face. They know you’re suffering and they share that with you. No one ever gets shortchanged when it comes to animals. It’s real love that flows between us. I hope you feel better soon. ❤

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  23. Lovely photo of Rusty and yes you can see in his eyes.. I still send you MUCH LOVE dear Amy, because I do send you love my friend from my heart to yours xxx ❤ And your dark night of the soul will ease my friend xx

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    1. This is not my first dark night of the soul, but it is my deepest and hardest, Sue. I so am grateful for your LOVE for it is that and only that which is pulling me through to the other Side when I am free of the dark. XOXOXOXO

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      1. Amy Grief holds and binds us, deeper than any other emotion.. It is only right you honour those feelings for as long as you want to hold onto them..
        But also think like this…
        You made peace with your Mom.. you didn’t wish for her to continue her own suffering.. You know she is well, in another dimension.. She would not wish you to prolong your grief one second longer than needed..
        Your grief is compacted because its three fold.. So much happening to your friend, your Mom, and your beloved Cats all this year.. No wonder our sadness rises and we will question also.. Why..
        And at the same time the world is also undergoing too, its grief, tears that are also opening hearts.. Hearts that need to be opened..
        A Bigger picture is emerging, and we are all part of that bigger picture…
        We came to experience, to take part in learning to hold the light and love frequencies of this world..
        We forget too, we have our own debris, our own baggage we have carried with us for Aeons.. All of it is being released right now..
        Look at it as happening all at once for a reason, to clear the energy codes from you all the faster, So you have a greater capacity to work with the light and Love of this world..
        It is always darkest before the dawn light Amy.. Hang in there as you work through it.. Believe me the Light at the end of your tunnel is bright my friend.. and oh you will feel so much lighter in spirit once you have allowed it to work though you and let it go..
        Much love and Peace dear Friend.. xxx ❤

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      2. I’ve been doing some deep thinking, Sue, and this is what I have begun to conclude. This huge sweeping away of cherished portions of my life rocked my world, shocked me to the core, shook me like no other phase of my life. As the emotions are settling down I “see” that the inner darkness I was still carrying was dug out … it requireda catastrophic episode to crack the hard shell that had been protecting this darkness deep within me. The deeper the healing the deeper the pain. I am in a huge introspective and transformative stage of my life. All and I mean all (with exception to my blog) means of communication (verbal) have been stripped away from me leaving me with huge canyons of Silence. This Silence is meant to be for me to step into in order to begin preparation for the New Life that I am heading for. I will be very relieved when this portion of my life is over with, but I know from experience I cannot rush it nor will it end until it is truly completed. Learning to let go ….. Much Love to you, Sue! 💞

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      3. I so know these stages dear Amy, and you know I hold you in my heart and thoughts.. No one other than ourselves can transcend through these emotional tunnels but ourselves.. But when we do eventually come out through the other side we are indeed much lighter, and brighter for travelling through them.. And Transcend you will, as you let go of previous layers and conditioning that was so ingrained within.
        This is happening to many now around our earthplane, on a bigger Mass Conscious level also, as events trigger pain and sorrow.. All is so we can emerge higher into the light of Love..
        Sending continued Love in your direction Amy.. Be gentle with yourself and take all the time you need in your silent spaces..
        Love Sue xxx ❤

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    1. Bless you, Neha. It is people like you who Inspire and encourage me to continue walking the path that I currently am on. I honest to God don’t know what is up or what is down right now but truly only following my heart. Your words in this comment mean more than you know. Much Love! 💕🐾💕

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  26. Rusty’s eyes are deeply hurt and I am sorry Tee is no longer there with you. I noticed that the word love is thrown very often in conversations, slowly losing its true meaning. Just like you said I believe this occurs out of the need of feeling loved. When I was younger I did that too but now when I say I love I really mean it. Wonderful post, Amy! ❤ 🐈🐱

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  27. Thank you for your heartfelt comment, D. Oh yes Rusty is missing his brother and it is taking a lot of TLC and attention to not only him, but to all others to get these precious cats back on smooth waters again. Some have stopped eating all together which means I am feeding them until they again start to eat. And yes that word Love is carelessly said these days, or so it seems, unfortunately making the meaning of that word common instead of extraordinary. I’m so glad you enjoyed my post and again I thank you for taking the time not only to read this post but to comment. Bless you! 💞

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  29. I love your cats, you and your photos. I apologized for my absence on the post where your husband took an amazing photo, Amy dear. I will reconnect more often, but I will Always follow you!! Xo 💐❤🌈❤🕊

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      1. Aww, the winter months are slower at work. Right now people are ordering antifreeze, windshield wipers, oil, snow scrapers. . .Argh!
        It helps pay for fun times ahead so take care and no worries. I felt your caring and thoughtful comments, they lifted me up, Amy. 💐

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  31. The only way those three precious words are spoken, as I see it, is when over time a relationship develops and mutual respect and acceptance from both parties have developed.  Comes a day when Love from the Heart bursts forth and the words come tumbling out effortlessly, “I Love you!”.
    My favourite lines. And I believe in these words just as much as you do. Beautiful post.

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