When something we say
is interpreted as Judgment
which in truth it is not,
then those who misinterpret
words that were not meant to be Judgmental,
in reality think others are sitting
in Judgement of them.
Thus trouble arises.
When one is free of Judgment —
the most important being freedom
from the Inner Judge —
and Truth is spoken factually
to another who hides behind illusion,
the Truthful one does not feel angst
when Judgment is unfairly
thrown at them for what was said.
Because that one “sees” from whence
the one doing the Judging
is coming from,
thus Compassion forms.
Twice in recent conversations the word Judgement came up directed towards me, which to be honest with you, took me by surprise. It was not my Intention to arouse or cause or even be the one judging, yet that is how the other party interpreted what I said to be. That in turn got me to think and think deeply and I came up with a few ideas that I am writing about here today.
Judgment IMO is too commonly used today and is seen in people who do not understand or have the capacity to accept others for who they are. They are too busy juggling inner gunk that is not allowing them freedom to show their True Nature. In one of my conversations I stated words based in anger and hurt born from my very intense emotions I am experiencing now. The person who received my words blew up at me and accused me of judging her and her life. That in all honesty was not my Intention. I was expressing my feelings on how I felt regarding a certain situation.
There is nothing wrong with being raw and real and saying what you really feel. There is nothing wrong with voicing our true feelings that are birthed out of hot volcanic pain. I for one will not sugar coat the Truth, yet again I must stop and say what my Truth is, is not necessarily someone else’s Truth. I also admit I could have worded my words more diplomatically, yet in the heat of the moment and from a breaking Heart I spoke words that were real and “hot”. Unfortunately they were not taken well.
I was taught as a child to sweep everything “ugly” or “uncomfortable” under the rug and then to forget it. Forbidden as well was the voicing of opinion or expressing emotion and if I did, was severely punished for doing so. I was not taught how to discuss something until all parties come to a mutual understanding of the whys behind the actions. Friends, I refuse absolutely refuse to sweep anything anymore under any rug! And hell yeah! I have a VOICE!
Everyone it seems has a different definition of what Judgement is. It depends on prior conditioning, religious beliefs, Inner Personal Growth, Life Experiences, which lens one looks at life with … fear or Love … and how much we are willing to open our Hearts in order to understand others. Yes it is true that no one can understand another’s life unless that is, one is willing to be fully open to express in words what life for that one is like. And, even if we don’t understand because we ourselves have not experienced what that one has, we can however cultivate Empathy and Love for that one. Unless we know what the other person’s life is like, how are we to ever grow and nurture a healthy relationship based on Unconditional Love with that person?
Bottom line there must be “real” communication. If there is no or very little “real” communication how are we supposed to understand the other when we are involved in a relationship? Not possible! Communication is key in order to develop closeness and Unconditional Love. It takes a lot of courage to let someone in to reveal the “truth” about what Life is like for that someone. Too many portray this false image they show to the world at large who they want the world to see them as.
Because of who I am, I seem to make many uncomfortable. I am so grateful to those who I can talk to “for real”, as I am doing here today. I will be the first to say to anyone … if I have hurt you in any way, talk to me. Let’s get to the bottom of this so we can move on. Silence, holding a grudge, sweeping ugly under a rug, refusal to take the plunge and talk … sorry no not me. I was brought up to hate and to hold grudges because it was forbidden to hash misunderstandings out. Well, I am here today to tell you that aint ever going to happen to me again!
I will also tell you I do not judge intentionally and if you believe that of me, then approach me so we can talk about it to unravel the misunderstanding. I am also very human and at times find myself judging another but right there, I catch myself and have a little “talk” with myself. No one has the right to judge another. That my friends, is a lot harder to do when emotions run hot and when extreme pain has been caused by another. Yet here again, IF there is no communication in order to set things right, how can we move forward? Answer: We cannot.
MF Macro Photography/ “Judgment”/ September 2017©AmyRose
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