takes much courage
especially when dealing with
stir the emotions so deep
yet when confrontation
is completed coming
from a state of Love
usually that message is well received
releasing the spirit from
a thousand and one agonies.
And in obtaining closure
from that confrontation
streams of Joy and Light
release the agonies of plight
making once that was so tight
to open with frivolous delight.
*Choose your words and your “battles” carefully*
MF Macro Photography Handheld/ “Confrontation For Closure”/
NO DIGITAL ART APPLIED.
When it comes to relationships I believe in honesty, a free give and take from both parties. That being said, misunderstandings still do happen and hurt feelings result. I was not taught how to confront or how to gain closure when uncomfortable situations arise. So I taught myself. It is extremely stressful for me to do this yet because of my belief in complete honesty, I practice confrontation in a way that does not put the other on the defensive. My knee jerk reaction, however, is to withdraw. Or it had been.
I started (healthy) confrontations with my husband and now because I have done it more then several times (actually I’ve lost count), it has become easier for me to do. So Life decided I require more growth in this area and a huge situation arose leaving me in such dire straits that I was emotionally tormented and devastated. I just had to know and gain understanding as to why something was occurring.
I carefully consulted my Inner Guidance as how best to proceed. There were so many emotions broiling about that first it was mandatory to get to a place of Calm. I did just that by going for a long hike. Again I turned inward as to what next to do. I was guided to carefully form my words all from a place of Love. I clearly stated how adversely this situation had affected me and that I did not deserve to be treated thusly. None of what happened was intentional. It was all due to the craziness of Life. (As I found out.)
My words were heard. And I mean really heard. The other party understood why I spoke the words I did, and they were sincerely apologetic. I took a big chance with this situation, really not knowing how the other would “react” with my words. Why? So many do not confront but rather just turn away without resolution to avoid a very uncomfortable place. Not me. I am not able to move forward until I gain resolution. As it is there are many aspects of my past I have no resolution and with those I have come to a state of acceptance that what is, is.
Avoidance is not the answer for sooner or later those situations (in different form) will keep reappearing until confrontation is learned from the perspective of Love. How else is growth possible?
My Intentions with this post are to encourage all of you to make right what has hurt you. Without honest, open conversation and understanding the wounds fester and a deep hurt penetrates your being. These types of situations only set you up for further hurt down the road. Oh yes, it is very difficult to stand up and say to another that what was done hurt you and to state the reasons why. Yet, when resolution happens, the feeling of immense relief is insurmountable. And miraculously the heaviness disappears.
This image was taken with me laying on my belly again on a very cold sidewalk with temps hovering around 39°F. I just knew that magic was about to happen. And by gosh it did. The sun popped out and voila I caught magic! I stress there is no digital art manipulation with this image. Nothing has been added or enhanced. What is seen is exactly what I saw on my viewfinder courtesy of Light from the Sun.
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