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In treating another without respect,
with malice and frigid ice,
know, Dear One,
that what is given by you
shall be
given thusly unto you.
In acting cruelly and harshly
we only set ourselves up
for a future date
with the rebound effect
wherewith the shoe is now
on the other foot
giving opportunity
to truly forgive self
for hurting another …
as you find yourself
reeling from the cutting hurt
you never saw coming
~~~~~

Photography/ “Rebound Effect”/ March 2017©AmyRose
http://www.herladypinkrose.wordpress.com

Many years ago when I was in my early twenties I met a young man.  We both were very attracted to each other and we both fell in Love.  As time went by I began to feel trapped, unglued, scared.  Not knowing who I was and drinking excessively I had no clue what Love was.  I knew I had very deep feelings for this young man but the thought of allowing him fully into my Heart terrified me.  I began to withdraw and to drink even more.

His father who had been very ill succumbed to cancer and died.  I went to the funeral with the family for by that time I was considered family.  That young man hung on to me for dear life and I panicked, unable to bear a clingy needy man.  My Heart became even more terrified and so without any word to anyone, I packed my clothes and left.  As in returning to my birth state.  I never did explain.  I just ran.

I was young and only thought of myself, not caring that I left behind a man whose Heart was broken in a million pieces.  All I cared about was to get away from the fear and the clinginess.  I never apologized.  And I never did realize just how badly I hurt this man until recently when an event happened in my own life.  An unforeseen knife struck from someone who blocked me from communicating to a very dear friend.  I was left devastated.

It is not important the emotions I experienced.  What is important is the fact I finally “got it” regarding the extent of pain I caused another all those many years ago.  And as I did, I closed my eyes and groaned, cried, and then in absolute humbleness, asked for forgiveness not only for what I did, but from this young man.  Now I am not in contact with this man today so I did this all in the Spirit realm, having Faith that forgiveness has been given.  And in so doing, this cycle is complete, the Lesson has been learned, and now I may go on without this painful Lesson to learn again.  I received a Blessing in Disguise from someone who hurt me deeply.

Unfortunately for this person this cycle of rebound effect has just been created.  We are in so many ways responsible for what occurs within our own lives.  When we are awake we are aware of this.  Something called Experience along with Time hopefully insures that we all grow in Wisdom in order to see the dark patterns in our Lives we ourselves created.  Then and only then can we change those patterns back to Light.

Yes, I have forgiven the person who hurt me.  And by doing so I am showing the Universe that I have truly learned my Lesson.  I freed myself from a longstanding prison sentence.  I step back into Flow and have Faith that All is Good.  And so it is.

❤ ❤ ❤

63 thoughts on “Rebound Effect”

  1. I do believe dear Amy Every Action we do in life has an equal and opposite reaction. We many not reap the causes of our actions straight away.. But the ripple effects we send out via our actions, and thoughts, come back to the source of their creation, which is us who have created them..
    Its also long been my belief that often those who we presume as our enemies, who cause us harm, untold grief and suffering. Could well be our greatest teachers in disguise..

    I have recently been working upon my own family Karma, asking those higher realms to break cords that I know exist..

    I think dear Amy, your courage stands proud as you openly tell us your story.. I know when we truly ask forgiveness, and SEE how what goes around comes around in a perpetual circle.. We may do well to remember the wise words you have given us here to reflect upon Amy..

    Thank you my wise soul sister..
    Love and Blessings
    Sue xxx ❤

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    1. What you said about those who we “think” are our enemies are actually our greatest teachers in disguise jumped out at me. I’ve actually reached the exact same conclusion. And as for courage, I’m just arriving at a place in my life I don’t care anymore what others’ think or how they react. There is so much of me that many don’t know and the stories I can tell about the hells I’ve been through again many do not know. Even my own husband doesn’t know all. I’m learning it’s therapeutic to release and allow what’s in me to be seen. Perhaps my honesty in letting the wall tumble down will in turn help someone else to do the very same. It is very humbling for I in all honesty have trouble even relating to who I was all those years ago. Yet it is me. I’ve come such a long ways yet there is an ironic twist to that too. The more growth I obtain the more I do see the all of what still has to be changed in order for Light to exist once again. Much Love and Many Blessings to you, Soul Sis. ❤ ❤ ❤

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      1. Amy I feel more of us are opening up and releasing what has been their experiences… Helping others as well as allowing ourselves to let go of what has been long held within.. Is also part of our own journey and Healing process..
        Understanding though that our past experiences are what have shaped us into our strengths of what we hold in our Now..
        Its a wonderful process to observe in others.. As I know I have been shedding, and sharing throughout the years.. And with each layer removed, I know I am raising my own vibration higher..
        Keep on keeping on my friend.. Love and Hugs always xxx ❤

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      2. These past few weeks I doubted several times if I would make it through the “compression” I was experiencing or if I would ever get back to living and off the couch. What a rough past couple of weeks, Sue. Today has been one of the better days and I took full advantage of it. You keep on keeping on as well! The sky is the limit and then some! 😉 Much Love and Gratitude for sending me that video!! Love, Amy ❤

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      5. Sue, how do I begin to say thank you to you?? I understand what this video is all about and the confusion of what was going on with me was completely cleared up. Bless you from the bottom of my Heart!! We are living in such powerful times!! Much Love and Light, Amy ❤

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      6. I am so pleased it helped.. I wondered whether to share the link with you or not.. But felt it in my heart you would totally get it.. 🙂 So Happy I follow my intuition in these things ❤

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      7. I don’t speak of a lot of things mainly because most would not understand. I’m still not quite sure exactly what truly is transpiring but this I do know … it is something radical and is changing what we perceive and know reality to be. I was so into a group years ago which left a very bad taste in my mouth after we all had been promised major changes would occur and then nothing at all did. That experience placed me in a position that acknowledges yes the energies are ever increasing in power and I have agreed to partner with these energies for transformation. Where all this leads I’m just following Spirit. I’ve learned not to base what I am on what others say but only listen fully to Spirit. In listening to the video you sent I kept checking with my Heart which is automatic for me now to feel what this woman was saying resonated with me or not. Not one moment was I saying …. no. To gain understanding brings along with it peace of mind. It makes what I am going through a tad bit easier. 💖🌹💕

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      8. Yes I agree entirely.. I first read her book which my daughter gave me last year as a birthday gift… What she wrote so resonated.. And then I found her videos.. Yes 2012 was not what many expected or what had been led to believe… But paramount energies I know started to pour in.. We are now within these energies which are affecting World events, that as yet we will not believe could even occur will happen.. Then again if we look back to the time we were born.. Look how things have changed..
        Thank you for sharing Amy.. Sending Love my frien 💕💗💜💙

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  3. I feel happy for you, that you have seen all these, dear Amy. Only then you are able to go on. Good to know, that you are on the right, right track now.
    We do all do harm, in one or another way, in our life. The great must be like you to see, what we created and work out from that.
    There are still things, as I’m not sure, if I will get an answer for in this life, but maybe in another time and place. There are acting, as I find it very difficult to ever get an explanation to, why happened. There are no excuses for all things happening.
    Wish you all good luck for you and yours,
    Irene ❤

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    1. There are many aspects of my life, Irene, I as well still don’t have answers for and perhaps will not in this life. I don’t know. I understand there are no accidents so to come to acceptance that this is what is and to have wisdom to know what I have the power to change … that is a lifelong journey. Much Love to you this day! ❤ ❤ ❤

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  5. Ahh…the lessons of Karma. It will always come back to you, it’s good to recognize, but take the lesson and forgive yourself. We’ve all been there, Amy. Peaceful, healing thoughts coming your way. 💚 💙 💜

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    1. Yes, Van. And Karma keeps coming back to you until hopefully you understand and are aware of why such and such is happening. Healing then can take place and this pattern no longer required fades away. I’m working on the letting go and Peace part today. Easier said then done. When you are hurt that deeply it is so tempting to dive into the lower emotions. I won’t. As it is I visited just about every emotion there is. Now a quiet letting go and acceptance of what is. Bless you, dear friend. Much healing has been going on with me lately. Whew! 💖🌹💖

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    1. Sometimes it is very difficult to forgive, YellowCable. The agonies I personally have endured as I with determination forgave, really meaning it. Thank you for your comment. Your words are very wise. Love, Amy ❤

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    1. David, so much healing with me lately. Whew! I think I am about done. Gosh I sure hope so. Temps have warmed up here so I THINK starting this week I’m out in my gardens. That ought to bring the healing process to a screeching halt. Much Love to you!! ❤

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    1. We all have that strength and that faith, Dr. Hb. We just have to dig deep sometimes. When I had my NDE in 1984 one Message that I brought back with me which has never left me is not to have unforgiveness on your Heart when you are on your deathbed for you will regret it. How? That I don’t know. Much of that experience has been wiped from my memory probably because my human circuits probably would not be able to handle it. I’ve been on a Forgiving Journey ever since then and let me tell you at times I just don’t want to forgive … it’s just too damned hard. Forgiving doesn’t mean you are letting someone off the hook who hurt you. No. Forgiving is freeing yourself of the hurt and pain and grudges so that you can truly experience Peace. I hope this helps. I’ve been on an emotional rollercoaster lately which I still have yet to level out from. But in my discomfort I am trying to share what I am learning so that those who read my experience may think upon my words. Much Love to you this day! ❤

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      1. I’ve been in depression for years now, and on meds, and in…anyhow. I used to forgive with such ease, but it’s harder and it’s impossible to forgive myself. Thank you AmyRose.

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      2. Ah that’s the tough one. Oh I know that in spades! The things I have done and in looking back I am appalled. I’m picturing being held by a very special someone in the Spirit realm who is hugging me as I let go all the pent up tension. I am being told forgive yourself for you are forgiven. I feel the Love of that hug and melt into it. I shed tears. And I let go forgiving me. We are on this human journey together stumbling far from perfect as we go. When you realize you deserve to be forgiven a whole new world opens. I promise you that I am consistently working on forgiving myself. Could you do the same? It’s a process. And we both deserve forgiveness. 💖🌹💖

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  10. Love, grace, forgiveness and mercy – we have them in abundance, yet sometimes they are the most difficult to give.
    In time, as we mature in our faith, we hopefully learn the lessons we were meant to learn – do unto others as we want others to do unto us, and those first four gifts continue to overflow as long as we give them away. ❤

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    1. I read your words several times, Susan. I’ve been talking (crying) to my husband about how being nice and doing the “right” thing nowadays seems to land me with some very nasty people. The craziness I see and run into has me in tears. Yet to let go of my morals, my standards, I am just not willing to do. Why? Because I know in me lives a very dark shadow that if I allow to “live” would hit back so ferociously the present day “me” would be destroyed. I know my shadow self intimately and understand the importance of keep it in control. Not easy by a long shot. And then too … I do know how to connect to that darkness to express healthily the pain of my Heart. There is a Purpose for all of me … and if anyone dare to threaten my family … that beast would roar to life without forethought. Many facets I have become and in so doing, I have chosen to life the Higher Way of Love that Jesus spoke of and lived when he walked this earth. Much Love to you this day, Amy ❤

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      1. Yes, choosing the Higher Way of Love – that is what we strive for. God’s Love is so different than our kind of love, because our love is always transactional, based on behavior. God’s love never is – He loves based on His character, and loves us all, forgives us all just because. And our own morals have nothing to do with His love either, because His love is free – no strings. It is the most difficult kind of love for us to understand. And it means accepting ourselves and loving ourselves as His pearl of great worth – loved for exactly who we are at any given moment. ❤

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      2. So many of us stumble at that concept of Love so much of the time, Susan. I know I go back and forth with it especially while I am going through some very difficult times. The easy times are easy. It’s when things aren’t going right and we seem “lacking” … I’ve learned to picture in my mind where I am sitting on Jesus’ lap as a child wrapped in his hug. Gets me every time. (smile) xoxoxoxo

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    1. At times it is so difficult to forgive ourselves which I am only too aware of. By now forgiving ourselves we carry the chains of imprisonment around with us. Thank you for your thoughts. Much Love to you! ❤

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  13. I liked the way you expressed yourself both in the beautiful photo and your truly heartfelt sorrow for a mistake of leaving without explanation. I do feel youth in their twenties makes mistakes without regard to other’s feelings.
    I like how Dan says you are only human. So true!
    Blessings will come forth now and you are free of the guilt, I do believe, dear Amy! ❤ xo (hugs)

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    1. In looking back, Robin, it is so difficult for me to even associate with the person I used to be. How far I’ve come yet it took about 36 years after the fact to experience the extent of pain I caused in order for me to forgive, and I mean at the core level. Yes we are only human after all. Much Love to you!!! ❤

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  14. I was on the losing side of that sorta thing once. He upped and moved to Florida. It was weird, but not exactly heartbreaking — more confusing, bewildering. On my end, it seemed everything was dreamy, but clearly it wasn’t. I still don’t know what all happened, but we’ve spoken several times since. I’ve learned drinking had been a huge component in his life then, and in that decision, but there are no hard feelings now. I understand the urge to cut and run.

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    1. Joey, I still at times have the urge to cut and run, believe me. Yet the adult me realizes that won’t solve a thing. Sorry you had to experience something like what I described. So glad to know there are no hard feelings … you wouldn’t want to carry that burden anyways. Much Love to you! ❤

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  15. In hindsight we can ‘see’ that it is all done with a great love, so that we can really see those lessons within and become the love that we seek. You have learned a very big thing in your life Amy, and with that lesson of forgiveness you are now giving from that place, and a greater love cannot be found than the one of unconditional love because of it, to you and others 😀 ❤

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    1. This letting go and release journey has me at times so exhausted you can find me at 1-800-couch. LOL Grueling work and one that at times truly wish I could walk away from … yet it seems I agreed to this and so it is. Taking things very slowly, Mark. Today is the first day in a while I actually was able to do other then what I had to do for my family. I have some amazing experiences and my wisdom gained will in essence be shared here at the right time. Bless you for your comment and your Loving Presence in my life. I so do appreciate you! Love, Amy ❤

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      1. My pleasure Amy, as it also is to hear your journey and the steps as your heart grows lighter and brighter. Much love to you also, may your wisdom keep you in its wings always 😀 ❤

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      2. Back up and in the running tomorrow, Mark. A post will be published! At least for the morrow, that is. Who knows what the proceeding days will bring? Going one day at a time here! LOL ❤

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  16. So sorry to heat what happened, Amy. You may have ran back then, but you were afraid and when we are afraid, it can be hard to be ourselves. I am sure that nice man did think you had reason to take flight. Also sorry to hear about being blocked recently… Hope things can get resolved even in the slightest bit. Sometimes we need time to cool off or time away to sort things out. Stay calms and more importantly, stay safe 😊

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    1. Mabel, all is good, really! This event happened about 36 years ago and I finally arrived at the place in present time to be able to SEE how broadly this and other events kept holding me prisoner in my own life. Now that I have forgiven and released this pattern has no more power over me! And about the blocking issue … now that my emotions are back at cool and calm I can SEE how this friendship was truly not a real friendship at all. Yes it hurt a lot about what happened but in the end, on the other side, I am no longer willing to let that kind of person in my life. I’m done with selfishness. Much Love to you this day! ❤

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    1. We could if we chose not to, Scott. I choose however to keep growing regardless if it hurts or not. I remember growing up the term … growing pains … when I as a kid would have a growth spurt. Yep, sometimes growth hurts. Much Love to you! ❤

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  18. My thoughts are with you Amy Rose. Oh so many souls are plundering along this path of many lessons right now. It hurts, it feels raw and at times one just wants to climb right out of their skin! But facing reality is what this lifetime seems to be about. Finding courage and strength, forgiveness and acceptance, reaching out instead of pulling away. Sadly for many they are oblivious to what is going on in their lives. They fall to the easy way out by tuning out reality and allowing themselves to be distracted into forgetting. Hopefully they will soon learn what this true life lesson is all about by facing truth. Those of us who have are neck deep in this moment in time and what it is offering us….The pain is there, but if one looks behind it or beneath it one will find the hidden wonder of good that lays waiting within all of our tribulations. It’s there! We just have to look for it.
    Thanks for sharing this tale and letting yourself grow even more 🙂 Blessings and love….VK ❤

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    1. VK, I read your comment to hubby. I was just so touched by your words. This journey has truly been gruesome at times with hubby getting concerned because according to him he’s never seen me as I have been (We’ve been together for 34 years). That’s true. The past 2 days have seen me moving and getting back into the groove. Just taking one day at a time for now because truthfully I do not ever know what will be when I open my eyes every morn. Today started out with a crunch just leaving me tempted to hit the couch and that’s it. Not today. I forced myself to the gym even being in a haze. I did it! From there came home and did some more cleaning that needed addressing. Grabbed my cam after that and got wowed over by the what I caught. Tomorrow if you are around one of the images I took today will be seen with a little saying that has a twist to it, that hopefully will give all a good laugh. That’s a good sign when my humor is back. Hurray! The agonies, the tearing down, the tears, the depression, letting go, balancing, forgiving, whoa …. yet today I feel clean and now grounded. Very raw still and my senses too keen right now as well. Hoping things settle down or I adjust. Crossing fingers that I am beginning to experience the hidden wonders of good. SO much to talk about! Thank you very much for your beautiful comment. I SO appreciate you!!! Much Love to you this day! Amy ❤

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      1. Wow! What a wonderful reply from you…Thank you! We have all crossed paths on this journey because we are here to support one another as we continue to smash against the brick wall and look for ways around it. Very trying times. The highlight of it all is realizing we can finally be open, honest and vulnerable with sharing ourselves and we are still loved and accepted. That’s huge. For me anyway. It is so nice to finally let go. Have a spectacular weekend. I’m sure your camera is getting excited to play with you…Be well my friend…Much love…VK ❤

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